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Letter To My Younger Self

Dear little me,

In order to write this letter to you, I am gathering up all of my courage. There are so many things I wish I could do now but haven’t been able to in the past. I have so much to tell you, but I don’t know where to begin. I am aware of your many errors, your tendency to take yourself for granted, your low self-esteem, and the frightening insecurities that kept you up at night.

I am aware that you were someone who constantly complaining the things you lacked. You used to be the one that made a lot of effort to win everyone over and win their friendship. You used to put so much faith in other people’s opinions that you developed a hatred for yourself. You worry a lot about what other people will think of you or what may occur if they judge you. You never considered yourself adequate for who you are. I am aware that you had no one to lead the way.

“Nothing in life causes more pain and suffering than the judgements we hold about and against ourselves. -Iyanla Vanzant

I am aware that people frequently compliment you on how you look. You never accepted yourself for who you are. To overcome my early fears and feel comfortable in my own skin, I am doing so today.

Therefore, today I’m telling you not to be too afraid to make mistakes. Because we are all humans, we all make mistakes. We don’t have to be flawless since it’s a fiction that perfection exists. You shouldn’t focus too much on what others are saying about you. Don’t worry if someone thinks less of you because your own opinion matters more. Taking modest steps doesn’t imply weakness or eligibility for Medicare. When you’re feeling unwell, it’s acceptable to take a break.

It’s crucial that you continue to listen to yourself. Don’t hold in your emotions and feelings. Speaking your mind is better than being silent. As you mature, the emotions you choose to repress will weigh you down, and you’ll come to regret it. Express your love if that’s how you’re feeling. Share your feelings with your family and friends if you’re having a bad day. Being vulnerable is acceptable.

Be thankful for everything you have in life, younger me. I am aware that there are many challenges in life. However, you will feel better about life in general when you focus on the positive aspects of it. Don’t allow your suffering destroy you. Life is full of pain. We can make good use of it even though we can’t avoid it. Allow your suffering to teach you.

“It was hard to let go of that; to let go of the life I had before, but the truth was, it was harder for me to stay there inside the pain. I wasn’t strong enough to live there no matter how much I wanted to.”

-Bianca Scardoni

Never doubt your ability to complete difficult tasks. You are free to pursue your interests. Be unbounded.

I am pardoning you today for all the errors you committed in the past. Today I am starting a new life to allow myself find the appropriate way. Live your life on your terms and own it. It’s never too late to discover who you are. Stay close to the objects and people that will heal you. Always be joyful!

Sincerely,

Yours truly

I wasn’t sure whether to write this letter today until the idea crossed my mind. But after I was done writing it, I felt incredibly light. We have all made mistakes in the past. On the other hand, we occasionally regret holding on too tightly. So forgive yourself today and let the past be the past. I believe that in order to move forward in life, you must first forgive yourself. Giving yourself what you need can never be done at the wrong time. In order to set yourself free, I’m asking you to write a letter to your former self today and express all the emotions you’ve been holding inside.

I want to ask What’s one thing you’d tell your younger self, if you could?

Let me know in the comments.