Let’s Get Married, But Live In Different Houses! (Or Have Separate Bedrooms)

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either do my kids.Once upon a time, I used to judge people who got married and lived in different houses or had separate bedrooms, and now I think, well, whatever moves your boat. You need to do what works for you, not what other people are doing.Sometimes, I miss living on my own because I love spending time alone. It’s hard for me to be with my partner all the time on the weekends together inside the house. If we have plans, I feel much better, but I feel agitated, anxious, and then depressed if we don’t.At these times, I think it would be better to live on my own and just meet when we want to meet, but I want to have a family with him, so it’s essential to live together to build one (at least I feel like that). But to be 100% honest, I don’t know how I will feel when our future kids move out. I love living with my partner, but I also love living alone.Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and The City got married and kept her old apartment from whem she or her husband needs time alone. This is the perfect scenario, but who can actually afford this? That’s why it’s called fiction.Then, there is the question about the separate bedrooms. My partner wakes up earlier than me and needs to sleep earlier than me, which is

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good because it makes me go to bed earlier. Still, if our morning and night routines were really different, I would rather have separate rooms because sleep is so important. Then, you think, what about sex? Well, sex can happen in other places in the house, so sharing a bed to sleep in doesn’t necessarily mean more sex.Having separate rooms is something that both parties need to want, and for the right reasons. If it brings more distance to the couple, I think it’s a dangerous path, but if it’s something to get the couple closer, I think it can be great. People that sleep better are for sure happier, and a happy person makes a happier couple.And then again, things can be different if you have kids. I don’t have kids, but I know that sleep and kids sometimes mean struggle. But again, the conversation about having separate rooms needs to come up to bring solutions to problems and make the relationship better.<h1 id="a97c">End Note</h1>We all have different needs, and what society says it’s the norm doesn’t need to be your norm. It’s your life. It’s your marriage. It’s your rule (as long both parties agree and are happy with it). Have separate houses, have separate bedrooms, do whatever makes your relationship stronger.</article></body>

Would you live in a different house from your husband or wife? Or would you have a bedroom each?

One thing for me is sure; if I ever get married again or buy a house with my partner, the condition is: I need my own bathroom.

Call me whatever you want to call me, but I was spoiled. I grew up with my own bathroom, and since then, I have struggled to share one. I just hate it. And if I am going to commit my life to a lifetime commitment, I want to make sure I will be comfortable with it.

After starting saving for a house, I am even thinking about saving for bathroom renovations and additions because I want my kids to also grow up with their own bathrooms. I know for some people, I probably sound nuts, and I don’t care. I will be happy knowing I don’t have to share a bathroom and neither do my kids.

Once upon a time, I used to judge people who got married and lived in different houses or had separate bedrooms, and now I think, well, whatever moves your boat. You need to do what works for you, not what other people are doing.

Sometimes, I miss living on my own because I love spending time alone. It’s hard for me to be with my partner all the time on the weekends together inside the house. If we have plans, I feel much better, but I feel agitated, anxious, and then depressed if we don’t.

At these times, I think it would be better to live on my own and just meet when we want to meet, but I want to have a family with him, so it’s essential to live together to build one (at least I feel like that). But to be 100% honest, I don’t know how I will feel when our future kids move out. I love living with my partner, but I also love living alone.

Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and The City got married and kept her old apartment from whem she or her husband needs time alone. This is the perfect scenario, but who can actually afford this? That’s why it’s called fiction.

Then, there is the question about the separate bedrooms. My partner wakes up earlier than me and needs to sleep earlier than me, which is good because it makes me go to bed earlier. Still, if our morning and night routines were really different, I would rather have separate rooms because sleep is so important. Then, you think, what about sex? Well, sex can happen in other places in the house, so sharing a bed to sleep in doesn’t necessarily mean more sex.

Having separate rooms is something that both parties need to want, and for the right reasons. If it brings more distance to the couple, I think it’s a dangerous path, but if it’s something to get the couple closer, I think it can be great. People that sleep better are for sure happier, and a happy person makes a happier couple.

And then again, things can be different if you have kids. I don’t have kids, but I know that sleep and kids sometimes mean struggle. But again, the conversation about having separate rooms needs to come up to bring solutions to problems and make the relationship better.