Let Go of Your Expectations, Not Your Goals

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lse’s reality and idea of common sense.Expectations are something we must be vigilant about examining (and re-examining) or we risk relinquishing too quickly the people and things most important to us, that connect us to our true selves and purpose.And yet: Circumstances. People. Timing. Fear. Deception. Love.All of these things can be shrouded in expectations that look and — scarier still — feel right. Like they’re really ours, the things we should thoughtfully consider and live our lives according to. And they may be true for some of us. And: they may not be. This is where discernment, brutal self-honesty, compassion, and patience come into play:Things don’t happen overnight. Allow time…and life…to develop. ~Frances Palmer (ibid)As we gain clarity on our goals and start to take steps towards achieving them, long-held expectations about how we achieve them can creep in. We hear the litany of “it has to happen in this way, in this timeframe, with these people, in this job…etc., etc., etc.” We’ve heard them all before and have made surprisingly significant life decisions based on them in terms of our education, life partner, career, how we parent, where we live, who we love, the life experiences we have in general.No more.These times are turning everything — including our most deeply-held and sacred-cow expectations — on its h

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ead. The way, the timeframe, the people, the job are all changing, every single day. It’s exhilarating, scary, and disorienting. We have a unique opportunity right now to throw out the playbook and create expectations of our own. A life of our own design and choosing. The way, the timeframe, the people, the job, the love, passion, success, and opportunities we want.To have a chance like this is crazy, let alone do it in a way we want to. You mean I get to choose the way, the timeframe, the people, the job…according to what I feel is right? It sounds too good to be true.But the moment is here, folks. Our new life is happening right fucking now. No more waiting, logic-ing, second-guessing or running every possible scenario through our heads about what could happen. None of that shit matters anymore. Unless we choose to stay attached to it. Or decide to hell with it and let it go, stepping into the wilderness of the unknown and trusting that our tribe is out there, waiting for us with open arms, a stiff drink, and an admonishment of, “GURL! We’ve been waiting for you FOREVER!! What took you so FUCKING LONG to get here?? Jesus, we’re glad you FINALLY made it!!”What is possible if you don’t allow waiting to become a habit??Wait no longer, my friends — the time is now to create the life you’ve imagined and get the fuck going on with it.Be good to each other, all! ❤</article></body>

Let Go of Your Expectations, Not Your Goals

Don’t let go of your goals, but let go of your expectations. Be patient in all ways.~Elise Kornack & Anna Hieronimus, In the Company of Women: Inspiration and Advice from over 100 Makers, Artists, and Entrepreneurs, Gracy Bonney (editor)

Expectations.

A heavy, loaded, and highly-distracting word. A word that weighs heavily on every human being I know, often outweighing the goals, aspirations, and dreams of the soul in favor of someone else’s reality and idea of common sense.

Expectations are something we must be vigilant about examining (and re-examining) or we risk relinquishing too quickly the people and things most important to us, that connect us to our true selves and purpose.

And yet: Circumstances. People. Timing. Fear. Deception. Love.

All of these things can be shrouded in expectations that look and — scarier still — feel right. Like they’re really ours, the things we should thoughtfully consider and live our lives according to. And they may be true for some of us. And: they may not be. This is where discernment, brutal self-honesty, compassion, and patience come into play:

Things don’t happen overnight. Allow time…and life…to develop. ~Frances Palmer (ibid)

As we gain clarity on our goals and start to take steps towards achieving them, long-held expectations about how we achieve them can creep in. We hear the litany of “it has to happen in this way, in this timeframe, with these people, in this job…etc., etc., etc.” We’ve heard them all before and have made surprisingly significant life decisions based on them in terms of our education, life partner, career, how we parent, where we live, who we love, the life experiences we have in general.

No more.

These times are turning everything — including our most deeply-held and sacred-cow expectations — on its head. The way, the timeframe, the people, the job are all changing, every single day. It’s exhilarating, scary, and disorienting. We have a unique opportunity right now to throw out the playbook and create expectations of our own. A life of our own design and choosing. The way, the timeframe, the people, the job, the love, passion, success, and opportunities we want.

To have a chance like this is crazy, let alone do it in a way we want to. You mean I get to choose the way, the timeframe, the people, the job…according to what I feel is right? It sounds too good to be true.

But the moment is here, folks. Our new life is happening right fucking now. No more waiting, logic-ing, second-guessing or running every possible scenario through our heads about what could happen. None of that shit matters anymore. Unless we choose to stay attached to it. Or decide to hell with it and let it go, stepping into the wilderness of the unknown and trusting that our tribe is out there, waiting for us with open arms, a stiff drink, and an admonishment of, “GURL! We’ve been waiting for you FOREVER!! What took you so FUCKING LONG to get here?? Jesus, we’re glad you FINALLY made it!!”

What is possible if you don’t allow waiting to become a habit??

Wait no longer, my friends — the time is now to create the life you’ve imagined and get the fuck going on with it.

Be good to each other, all! ❤