Laughter Should be a Love Language

The ones that take your breath away and just might make you pee a little

“And so, with laughter and love, we lived happily ever after.” -Gail Carson Levine

Maybe you have heard of love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts. Many of us can identify with one of these love languages as our own. I tend to fall somewhere between a few of them so I propose we add a sixth love language… laughter!

When was the last time you laughed? I am talking about one of those deep belly laughs that take your breath away. You feel it deep down in your gut and might even make you pee a little. Those are the best kind of laughs. When I laugh this way my soul lights up.

“A smile starts on the lips, a grin spreads to the eyes, a chuckle comes from the belly; but a good laugh bursts forth from the soul, overflows, and bubbles all around.” — Carolyn Birmingham

Belly laughter is known as the most honest type of laughter. It might be harder to come by than say a nervous laugh or a chuckle, but when you are able to experience it you feel it deep inside.

When my husband, Luke, and I laugh together it’s magic. Whether he’s busting out his flossing dance or cracking an inside joke between us, it ignites this feeling inside me of pure happiness and love. At that moment there are no cares or worries, only pure joy and bliss exist.

Laughter has been studied and used to treat many things humans face or suffer from every day like stress, pain, creativity blocks, depression, dementia and others. When was the last time you truly laughed and it didn’t improve your mood in some way, shape or form? Whether it’s people you surround yourself with that make you laugh or a go-to funny television show or movie, having that outlet to be able to genuinely laugh can be a game-changer. This is especially true when you find yourself stressed, feeling down or needing a break and maybe ignite some inspiration.

According to expert Robert Provine, laughter is specifically a social structure, something that connects humans with one another in a profound way.

When you laugh with someone, you feel a connection, whether it’s with a spouse, child, family member, friend, colleague or even a stranger. That moment sticks with you. In this situation, I can’t help but think about my unborn daughter. She is still in my womb, but she has already made mommy and daddy laugh so much. She reacts to our voices, music, our hands-on my belly. We have bonded and connected through laughter and she isn’t even born yet. I can only imagine the things this little girl will do to make us laugh as she grows up. I can’t wait for those moments. I will cherish them forever.

So when someone asks me what my love language is I would like to tell them it’s laughter.

What about you? What is your love language?

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