Life Lessons and Lessons Learned
Ladies, Women, Girls, Females - Learn to Keep Your Man
Experienced Words for Those Willing to Heed Some Good Advice
Haven’t women learned how to keep a ‘good man’ yet? Regardless of race or ethnicity, there are a couple of things all women need to realize in order to nurture the relationship with their ideal partner. Let me offer a couple of experienced words for those of you who are to heed some good advice.
Plenty of men that women meet will have been in past relationships. Many of them will have had the benefit of marriage. The men who have been married have set qualities that their new partner will have to meet. First of all, if a man is divorced and he enjoyed his marriage, he will consider that his marriage was successful, regardless of how it ended. If the previous relationship was a disaster throughout, the new woman has a better chance of establishing a long-lasting relationship with that man.
Let me tell you why. As wrong as it may be, if your partner was previously married, you are going to have to live up to some of the standards the former wife set. If his marriage lasted a short period of time, you have a better chance of developing a long-lasting relationship with him because his thoughts of his marriage will not have left him with positive impressions.
Please remember, these are things men will not tell you and will not admit to. Some things, you will have to figure out on your own. Women have to realize that men’s actions speak louder than their words.
If he had a long relationship, let’s say five years or more, and he got out of the relationship without having lost a lot of personal assets, he will most likely have a good feeling about that relationship, even though it ended in divorce.
Imagine with me for a moment though, that your new male partner divorced about three or four years ago, but still has constant contact with his ex-wife. More than likely, that contact is via child support payments or alimony, or she got the house, and she still remains in touch with him periodically with legal aspects of the property. Wouldn’t it stand to reason that he would have a bad taste in his mouth when thoughts of her come to mind?
Now imagine that he divorced his ex-wife four or five years ago, yet they remain in touch, but only when he calls her, or she calls him on the occasion of a birthday or some other sentimental anniversary. His thoughts of that past relationship will be positive, thereby making YOUR job of locking in your position in his heart that much harder. Don’t be afraid to talk with him to find out why he thinks his marriage was a success. If you want to ensure you remain his woman, you HAVE to do things that he relates as the cornerstone of a good relationship.
If women haven’t realized by now that their man has to love them more than they love that man, then they are eventually going to be in for a rude awakening. Ask a friend who recently broke up with her man or who is on the verge of breaking up about events leading to their demise. She will probably tell you that she never saw it coming.
It’s a difficult role that women hold in our society. She must be evenly yoked in the professional world in order to earn as much income as her male counterpart. They bear our children and must raise them when men fall short of their responsibilities and obligations. Often time, they are left holding the bags when the man decides he just cannot be a part of what they had. Usually, it’s so much easier for the man to pick up and start over. So, there we have it again, the woman is left looking silly and having to make adjustments because her man couldn’t handle his load. Finally, the woman has to figure out what the other woman did that pleased her man and apply those tactics to her relationship.
No, it’s not fair, the things we ask of our women. We expect a lot and give only a little in return, but it’s like that old adage, “You can’t live with ’em and you can’t live without ‘em.” So, what’s a gurl to do?
Keep your head up, continue progressing in the professional world, and don’t be too hard on us because we don’t have the stamina that you possess with regard to relationships. There is no secret leading to how women can keep their men. But you can learn the things that make men leave and stamp them out before you learn first-hand why men leave women.
About the Author
Julius Evans is a 2X Top Writer on Medium in Writing and Music. He has a Master of Arts degree in National Security and Strategic Studies from the U.S. Naval War College, Newport, RI; a Master of Arts degree in Strategic Communication and Leadership from Seton Hall University, South Orange, NJ; a Bachelor of Science degree in Mass Communication and Journalism from City University, Bellevue, WA, and an Associate of Arts Degree in Liberal Studies from Central Texas College, Killeen, Texas. He is a 1985 graduate of the Defense Information School (DINFOS) of Print and Electronic Journalism and Advanced Public Affairs. DINFOS was relocated from Fort Benjamin Harrison, Indianapolis, IN, to its current location at Fort George Meade, MD.
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