Knowing Your Love Language Is Insanely Useful (But Not For The Reason You Think)

Flipping the love language on its head

Once upon a time, there was a very very popular book called ‘The 5 Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts’ (can you THINK of a more attractive title, omfg).

I, personally, have not read the book. It’s living somewhat forlorn in my bedside bookshelf. But I have a general gist of what it’s about, which is defining the different ways people prefer to receive love.

The five languages in the book are, according to Google, 1) words of affirmation, 2) quality time, 3) physical touch, 4) acts of service, and 5) receiving gifts. Understanding your love language and that of your significant other is very helpful in maintaining long-term relationships.

Understanding Your Other Love Language Is A Massive Life Hack

To my understanding, the book focuses on how people prefer to receive love, not how people prefer to give it. I could be totally wrong about this. But it’s the giving part I want to focus on today.

Because understanding your giving love language is, without question or qualification, the hands-down best shit in the entire world.

Why? Because you can hack that knowledge to massively improve your quality of day-to-day life.

Example: my love language is giving gifts. And my dudes, I live for that shit. Randomly gifting people things that I think they’ll like is the most reliable gateway to a dopamine hit I have ever found, bar none.

I know how to fix bad days. I know how to make good days better. And it is entirely because I understand what my giving love language is, and I can spread it like pollen in springtime.

Making the Life Hack Work

Now, it does help to understand the receiver’s love language. I don’t give my husband random gifts because he doesn’t like things. He will go, “Um. Thanks. ‘K.” and never use it again (I have tested this).

You also need to pick receivers who won’t be totally weirded out. If I pick a random Facebook friend and go “here’s a thing! I have sent it to you!” I will probably be immediately unfriended for weird-potentially-super-creepy-ness.

But when I find someone whose receiving love language matches my giving one? GO TIME.

Because when I have a bad day, I think precisely one thing.

IT’S GIFTING TIME, BITCHEEEEES.

Want more ideas for instant happiness? Check out Things That Make Me Instantly Happy by Vidya Sury, Collecting Smiles.