Kindred Spirits Are Not What You Think They Are
Here is how to recognize them
What notions come to your mind when you hear the word ‘kindred spirit’?
Love. Understanding. Harmony?
You are spot on. Yet, there is more to it than that.
While kindred spirits are people you easily connect with, with whom you feel at ease and can be silent feeling comfortable for hours, there are also those spirits that challenge us.
In a big way.
Contrary to a popular belief, kindred spirits are not only those people who make us feel good.
Kindred spirits are also the most difficult people we encounter during our human experience on Earth.
Kindred spirits are the ones who make us face traumas and heal from them. They make us go through the darkest times in our lives.
Everything serves one purpose: to heal from our fears, traumas, and pain.
You can ask, how a person who causes the trauma in our life can simultaneously heal it?
Those people serve as our guides that help us learn the lesson we have chosen for this lifetime.
They make you face the darkest truths about yourself and highlight those areas in your psyche that need healing. You cannot heal what you are not aware of.
Do you know that one family member toward whom you feel strong emotions?
It can be a feeling of respect mixed with anger, frustration, and blame. It can be a feeling of resentment.
He is an angel dressed as an oppressor, an abuser, a critic who came here to show you the path you need to follow in order to heal from your victim mindset.
This person is here to help you work through your sabotaging beliefs and the illusion you have bought into. The illusion that you lack something, that you are a victim of circumstances.
Until you understand the power of authenticity and following your Truth, the same patterns of relationship will replay in your experience.
Before your soul entered your human body, it had made a pact with the other person’s soul to help you evolve as a human being and raise your consciousness while here on Earth.
It means you agreed to feeling rejected, not feeling good enough, or abandoned because you knew it would be an indispensable part of levelling up in the game of “life”.
You wanted to experience every facet of being human.
You did not come here to be comfortable.
You came here to learn and expand.
The journey of growth is not always pretty and comfortable. In fact, 99% of the time, it is ugly.
But you agreed to participate in this experience. Don’t you think there is a deeper layer to your suffering?
Let’s use an example.
When you were 8 years old, you were attached to your bike. You took it everywhere. Every afternoon, you were riding it around the block.
One day, you got bored, so after a 5-minute ride, you asked your father to carry it all the way to the fifth floor of your apartment building.
Your father was exhausted, frustrated because of the hard day at work, and you ring a bell to ask him for a favour.
He exploded, yelled at you and refused to go back and forth, granting your wishes.
Suddenly, your ideal world came tumbling down. Daddy’s girl was no longer treated like a princess.
You felt lost, confused and rejected. You wandered around the neighbourhood, experiencing strong, uncomfortable feelings and were not equipped to handle them.
This tiny, seemingly insignificant event, shaped how you saw yourself in the world which, in turn, influenced your relationship patterns.
That afternoon you made an assumption: I am not #1 for my dad.
This limiting belief got deeply rooted in your psyche because of the strong emotions you were feeling that day.
This limiting belief became your sabotaging theme in every intimate relationship with men later in life.
As a result, you have never felt like a priority in your relationships because of a traumatic, uncomfortable event that happened when you were a kid.
In this story, your father is your kindred spirit.
Regardless of how he acted later in life, whether he was distant, abusive, or moody, he was always your kindred spirit guiding you to raise your consciousness and compassion.
Unconscious as a human, his soul wanted you to evolve due to many uncomfortable experiences.
Guys, who cheated on you, were your kindred spirits.
Their souls agreed to treat you this way, so you could finally wake up and face sabotaging beliefs you have unconsciously been caring around.
Every man that made you feel not good enough was your kindred spirit.
It doesn’t mean you have to worship them or allow them to treat you poorly. It doesn’t mean they should have access to you.
It means you can heal yourself once you understand you have been living in the illusion of your sabotaging belief.
Your kindred spirits help you to remember who you really are.
Kindred spirits:
- Understand who you are at the deep core levels and know exactly what you need in this lifetime to become a better human.
- On many deep levels, you are alike. You may share the same sense of humour, get irritated by the same things or criticize them for traits you also unconsciously represent.
- May bug you. They are a representation of beliefs you have established early on in childhood that continue to stir powerful emotions inside you. Those people are also the ones your soul has chosen to show you the path to healing.
- Remind you of your power. Kindred spirits may hurt you, and say hurtful things, but only to wake you up from the illusion you have subscribed to.
You are responsible for your creation.
Realizing that we have chosen the path, however far from ideal it may be, carries soothing qualities.
Our environment and the people we encounter always reflect our assumptions.
Once you understand that your soul’s purpose is so much bigger than the illusion of being a victim and thinking the world is evil, your ego is no longer in the driver’s seat. Your soul is.
You have raised your consciousness and begun the process of healing.
There is something cathartic when you realize that people don’t hurt you intentionally but are reflections of your assumptions about the world.
The mere fact that you recognize what limiting beliefs govern your reality allows you to change them.
The path to healing lies through acceptance.
It doesn’t mean it is okay for people to hurt you.
You don’t even have to be in touch with your kindred spirits, but seeing them as your guides in this lifetime, knowing their souls want you to heal, helps you accept what is happening in the relationship.
When you can recognize repeating patterns in your relationships and trace them back to the original event that created the false assumption, acceptance and healing wash over you.
Awareness is the first step to healing.
There is nothing you can do to change the event that happened. But you have very power to change the narrative around it.
Once you change how you perceive people on this planet, their attitude toward you will follow that shift in your mind as you have awakened the feeling of compassion.
Every discomfort in your life indicates the part of you which begs for healing.
Traumatic experiences or past beliefs want to be seen and acknowledged by you. As long as you ignore the calling, the uncomfortable situations, people in your life will become louder, finally impossible to ignore.
Isn’t love a better state than resentment?
Resentment is worse than a disease.
It is a deadly poison that makes happiness impossible and uses up tremendous energy that you could utilize to enjoy your life.
Resentment anchors you in the victim mindset.
As long as you entertain resentment, you can’t picture yourself as a self-reliant, independent, thriving person.
It creates a wall around your heart and makes it impossible to show others how beautiful and lovable you are.
Traumas and discomfort are building forces which mould us into authentic powerhouses.
When you decide to abandon negativity and a victim mindset, you discover the greatness and all-encompassing love.
When you start operating from the higher frequency like love, joy and peace, you share the greatest gift with the world — yourself.
Thank you for being here, — Kate
