Kevin Samuels Dies: Black Women Catch Fire and Spread Lies…Why?

There are a lot of women writing a lot of words about a self-proclaimed relationship advisor who, according to them, they couldn’t possibly care less about. Someone they’ve never met and probably only heard about on May 5th, 2022, the day that he died. Something is off in the online conversation.

This is not a defense of the man, as he certainly said some things that could be received as unkind (he apparently was known to tell overweight women that they are fat, he always asked women to rate themselves on a scale from 1–10, and he told both men and women that in the dating world they needed to play in their own league). It really doesn’t matter one way or the other to me; but I am genuinely curious about why so many (especially) black women feel the need to lie and fabricate things instead of pointing to things that he actually said. I don’t have enough interest in the subject to go listen to more of his videos to find gotcha moments because his shows run for hours. When I saw the number of critical articles out there, I expected them to deliver the goods. But in every case, I see the same two or three easily disprovable lies. From what I’ve seen, he seems to have just told a few people some true things that women didn’t like hearing.

I came to know of this guy about two weeks ago while reading another article here on Medium that mentioned his name. I then went and viewed some portions of some of his shows to support my own article.

So I am not a “fan” and I don’t claim to know everything about everything he ever said, but what I saw simply does not match the narrative that I see in the articles here. I am not endorsing everything that he said or anything anyone associated with him might have said.

Anyway, when the first article on the subject written by a woman whose writing I respect and enjoy popped up in my feed, I was really interested in what she had to say.

The writer accuses Kevin Samuels of telling black women that they should ignore their daughter’s claims of sexual assault if the assailant is their romantic partner. This is a complete and outrageous fabrication… created by taking snippets of a long conversation about dating and relationships and clipping them to remove context. The other accusation is closer to the truth. He did call the woman a “big b_tch” …as he tried to get a word in above her screaming and cursing at him during his live show.

I expected to find the writing to be of the usual quality. Her articles are well-researched and documented, a rarity with online writers. I seek out her content every time I come to medium. Here though, she linked to two pieces of online content that just happened to be critiquing content from the dead guy that I had viewed in the past two weeks while doing my research, and in both cases, she used them to make misrepresentations about this dead man. I have to say that this baffled me. The writer accuses Kevin Samuels of having told black women that they should ignore their daughter’s claims of sexual assault if the assailant is their romantic partner. This is a complete fabrication that is evident in the full conversation that is actually available online. The other accusation is closer to the truth. He did call the woman a “big b_tch” as he tried to get a word in above her screaming and cursing at him during his live show. However, his response to this one rude, crass, verbally violent person who also happened to be a black woman is not an indication that he hates all black women as the writer suggests.

If this guy was so bad, there should be hours of real, honest representations of his statements that you could cite. Why fabricate?

I guess I am publishing this hoping that someone will comment with an explanation of why these women feel that it’s necessary to fabricate things to be outraged about instead of just telling the truth and letting that stand for itself. I mean, his stuff is all online. If it’s so bad, there should be hours of real, honest representations of his statements that you could cite.

My response to her article, which the author chose to hide because she was unable to defend her use of links that misrepresent facts, is below…

Please, don’t bother just attacking me. If you have something real that this guy did or said to justify celebrating his death, provide that and I’ll be right alongside you. Telling people the truth is not evil just because they don’t want to hear it, even if the delivery is rude.