It’s Time We Talked About Tender Sex

Summary

The article discusses the concept of tender, slow-paced lovemaking as a deeply intimate and satisfying alternative to the intense, physically demanding sex often portrayed in media.

Abstract

The author reflects on the nature of sex as typically depicted in media, characterized by intensity and physical exertion, and contrasts it with the idea of tender lovemaking. They question whether a slow, rhythmic sexual experience could be as emotionally and physically fulfilling as more vigorous sex, emphasizing the potential for deep intimacy and connection. The author shares a personal anecdote about a sexual encounter where they were concerned about sweat dripping onto their partner's face, which led to overthinking and nearly losing their erection. They express a desire to experience and learn more about a slower, more intimate form of sex, which they believe could lead to a profound level of closeness and satisfaction, though they admit their limited experience and a partner who is not open to sexual experimentation or discussion. The article invites readers to share their experiences and opinions on whether such tender lovemaking is possible and satisfying.

Opinions

The author values the intensity and physicality of sex but is intrigued by the potential of tender lovemaking.
There is a belief that tender lovemaking could lead to a different kind of emotional intensity and physical satisfaction.
The author is concerned about the potential impact of bodily fluids, like sweat, during sex and its effect on the sexual experience.
They suggest that slow sex could involve deep affection, focused eye contact, and methodical caressing, enhancing the intimate connection between partners.
The author is skeptical about the prevalence of slow, tender sex in reality, hinting that it might be rare due to societal norms and the lack of intimate work ethic in relationships.
They express a longing for personal experiences of tender lovemaking and are curious about the techniques that could make it fulfilling.
The article concludes with an open invitation for readers to share their experiences and insights into tender lovemaking, indicating a community-driven interest in exploring this less-discussed aspect of sexual intimacy.

It’s Time We Talked About Tender Sex

And, no, that’s not supposed to say “Tinder Sex”

We would all admit that sex is an intensely physical act between two people. The act of lovemaking warrants itself to a building up of intensity so that both partners come to a climax that’s explosive and, well, climactic. After all, every sex scene ever made displays this for us. The more intense the fucking, the greater the desire for each other. It’s a natural progression; as the building up of speed for a freight train. You try and stop that train suddenly and you’re going to get hurt.

But what about tender lovemaking?

Is it possible for two people to have an intense, physical, sexual experience that’s deeply fulfilling without the gradual increase in all that thrusting and cowgirling? I’m seriously asking. For a friend.

Don’t get me wrong. I love an intense romp in the hay! The gradual intensity of fucking can be mind-blowing, especially when two people are intensely connected and focused on each others’ pleasure. To be physically spent after a round of sex can be one of the most peaceful and pleasurable moments of life. Drenched in sweat, the smell of cum and the matted hair on the face ranks right up there with a fantastic free meal that you didn’t have to pay for. It’s highly satisfying. Complete joy. And you sleep really well afterward.

I’m remembering one time while making love to a lover. We had been going for quite a while and as we both got closer to orgasm, we assumed the missionary position. She was enjoying herself. I was doing everything I could to not cum so that we could arrive at the station around the same time. I was focused. Sweat was forming on my forehead and I could feel it sliding down my face. I freaked out.

I knew that sweat was going to drip on her face eventually and I wasn’t sure how she was going to respond to that. Would it be a deterrent? Would it turn her on even more? I didn’t know! It’s not typically one of those topics you bring up when discussing sexual preferences with a partner.

So, my plan was to lean my head to the right so that my face wasn’t directly over hers. It was the only thing I could think of to do. I didn’t want to bury my face in the pillow beside her. I enjoy watching a woman’s face when she comes. By this time, sweat was dripping down the end of my nose. I had to protect her! With all that overthinking, I was losing my erection. Thankfully, she was close and as she grabbed my ass and pulled it in tighter and faster, we landed that plane quite nicely. The “sweatfall” was averted.

Intense and active sex is great. Not knocking it at all. But, I believe that a slow, steady rhythmic sexual experience would be just as emotionally intense and physically satisfying as the kind of sex that burns 700 calories.

Here’s the problem I have, though. I’ve never actually experienced it. Let’s just say my sexual experiences are extremely limited in the partners department. (This is my first Medium article in this genre, so we don’t know each well enough for me to share too much information yet.) And let’s also say my wife isn’t really the experimental type. She can’t even talk about sexual things openly without changing the subject quickly. (That’s also another Medium article in the works.)

So, it’s never been a topic we’ve discussed and we’ve never actually attempted it. But, that hasn’t stopped me from fantasizing about it! I imagine that it would be deeply intimate and the focus on your partner would have to be intense. But think of the deep closeness that would ensue!

The idea of two people so focused on one another to the point that love and passion bring you to a climax as opposed to increased friction is highly satisfying to think about.

Am I just dreaming here? Has anyone ever experienced this kind of love-making? Is it even physically possible for a man to cum with a slow and steady rhythm on his penis? Can a woman climax simply by focusing on the slow-burn moment of intimacy with her man?

I, personally would love the experience! To be able to run the whole sexual experience in a slow-motion reel.

I suspect there would be deep affection expressed through conversation throughout. Focused eye contact. Slow, methodical caressing all over the body. To be able to have this kind of experience while having sex would be an intensely personal and special moment between two people.

Maybe that’s why you never hear about it. You’re definitely not going to see that kind of action in porn. It’s a deeply intimate posture and most people simply don’t have the work ethic put into their relationships to have that kind of intimate and selfless experience.

Seriously, I’d love to hear your experiences with this kind of love-making. Have you had this experience before with a lover or spouse? Was it more intense like I imagine it would be or have I dreamed this all up in my romantic head? What techniques did you use to keep it slow and yet still fulfill each other?

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