It’s O-kay to Not be ‘okay’
You don’t have to fake it for me or anyone else — not even yourself, if you do not want to or simply just can’t anymore.
Although I understand and can appreciate the ‘fake it till you make it’ mentality and psychology, it can also be potentially harmful…
Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to just be. Be however we are, whatever we are feeling, doing or not, thinking or not, interacting or not… To just be in the moment and immersed in yourself, your soul/spirit, your pain, your healing, or even immersed … in nothing.
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Sometimes we do need to ‘push through’ so that we do not ‘get stuck’, but sometimes we push too soon, too hard, too often, or because we feel we are supposed to — and we can feel that for any number of reasons. It hurts to sit with the pain, maybe it’s frustrating. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe you are tired. Maybe you don’t want to let others down…
Regardless of the reason we push through, sometimes, as hard and frustrating as it might be, we need to be still and be okay with not being okay.
Ignoring our problems and needs rarely turns out positively in the long-run. Take the time and willingness to be vulnerable with and for yourself — otherwise, whatever is there might never really ever heal. Things rarely, if ever, just ‘go away’ by themselves.
Be okay with not being okay. It might be the best thing you can do for yourself.
Don’t dwell and/or ruminate, but rather sit with, acknowledge, accept,etc. , and perhaps most importantly, HONOR your experience. In time, as and when you are ready, I do believe healing from ___ will naturally start to shift and you will once again be able to move forward with less strain in your movements. It does take time, and more importantly, I think it takes effort — most things do.
I think it is also very important to know that just because you have moved forward does not mean it, whatever it is, is gone. It does not mean you ‘let it go’ or ‘left it in the past’. It was, is, and will likely always be a part of you, but it no longer has to define you, haunt you, weigh you down, or cripple you.
It will no longer have the control, surprise, and/or power it once did and you will not continually regress when it randomly decides to rear it’s proverbial ugly head. You get to CHOOSE HOW you respond, rather than react, and whatever hold it once had hopefully is no more. You took it to trial, held it responsible, and you gained a piece of yourself back.
Give the pieces of what you are holding onto back to God, back to the Universe, and/or back to the ‘rightful’ owner(s) — release it into the void with purpose and intention. Surender and allow your inner-most-soul to heal. Let the pieces of yourself that have been shattered make their way back to you while rejecting what is no longer serving you, what is not yours to keep, what does not belong to you anymore and perhaps never did...
Please, don’t make the excuse that it is too hard. You deserve so much better than that! No one can do the work for you. They can love, honor, respect, and support you. They can help you to push when you need to puch and pause when you need to pause, but ultimately the responsibility lies within your own hands.
Let me tell you something you may or may not sometimes know, because I didn’t always know it, You are worth the fight! You are worth the time! You are fucking amazing and you are here for a reason!
Take your time, take the moments in stride, and when you need to, pause and just be and do whatever it is that you need for yourself (***so long as that isn’t harmful or hurtful to others — or yourself***).
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Stay tuned for that secret at the bottom…
With Love, Light, and Blessings ❤
Your Idealistic HolisticNerd ~ ❤ Mind ❤ Body ❤ Spirit/Soul ❤ ~
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