It's Not Hard Work if It's What You Truly Desire.

Summary

The web content discusses the challenges and emotional turmoil inherent in relationships, emphasizing the necessity of working through conflicts and growing from the experiences.

Abstract

The article titled "It's Not Hard Work if It's What You Truly Desire" delves into the complexities of romantic relationships, acknowledging the deep pain that can arise from conflicts or breakups. It describes the emotional struggle as akin to having one's heart torn out, with the author stressing the importance of effort and communication in maintaining a healthy relationship. The text advises against letting insecurities and fear of rejection hinder open dialogue and suggests that arguments should be handled with care to avoid exacerbating the situation. While rough patches are painful, the author encourages couples to view them as opportunities for growth, to strengthen their bond, and to deepen their connection. The article concludes by reminding

Relationships

Have you ever felt/had deep sadness or hurt–you know the kind that shakes and rattle your rib cage, it almost feels like someone has cut pieces of your heart out and literally dangled it in front of you.

You try your best to grab back what was taken, or what you've willing gave up but you can’t. Tears roll down each of your cheeks, you feel lost and not in control of your emotions or thoughts.

You’re consumed with the hurt that you didn’t ask for, everything is spinning out of control and the one person you want to run toward is no longer accessible.

Every relationship will go through a lot of unnecessary rough patches, fresh ones, old ones, long-distance ones, it doesn't matter you have to put in the work for all.

They start off very exciting and scary at the same time you try to figure out how much of you to surrender and once it happens is it enough.

Will the other person gets turned off by the darkest parts of you? You continue to rationalize with yourself, but the fear of rejection has already set in.

You succumb to your insecurities, instead of just talking about why you feel the way you do.

You end up having disagreements..etc. And you begin beating up on yourself for every action that you’ve caused–they caused(start feeling like you're not good enough)

When you’re in a heated argument never try to throw someone’s situation back in there face, especially if you just said you didn’t wanna be with them you’re adding more fuel to the fire.

Relationships are filled with a lot of trials and tribulations, It’s just trying to find the right ingredients to help mend and get through your rough patch.

Rough patches aren’t meant to feel good (it fucking hurts in every way) You just want to go back to smiling, having a date night, surprise poems/letters.

Sometimes you feel like that high, or shall I say floating on cloud nine would never come again, but it will. Also, try not to distance yourself that much it's okay to take some.

Work through your mishaps you only can grow from your experiences and strengthen your foundation, deepen the connection with your significant other if meant.

If for some reason it’s not meant. Look at it as a life lesson, not a loss, the right one will come along ready, willing, and able to love on all of you and more.

I'm not a therapist, relationship coach, counselor...etc..I'm a human being and I will always make mistakes, hoping to learn from– importantly, grow from.

Thanks for reading...Beautiful ones.