Is Your Indulgence Really a Vice?
Don’t get me wrong I love me some vanilla now and then, but I need some alternative spice too.
We all like to indulge ourselves. On a now and then basis it should be part of a person’s self-care and certainly not something to be sorry for. But I would think types of indulgence are purely personal. After all what is one man’s meat may be another man’s poison.
And remember there is a difference between vice and indulgence.
Vice ~ evil or immoral behaviour; an evil or immoral quality in somebody’s character.
Indulgence ~ something that you allow yourself to have even though it is not essential
So here’s my personal take on these matters…
Is your indulgence really a vice?
- Food
- Wine
- Drugs
- Sex
Food
My man and I eat extremely well. We don’t spend loads of money on food but we are those scavengers raiding the discount area and filling up our freezer with prime meat and fish for the fraction of its original price. We always cook from scratch. Nothing added except for herbs and spices. I know this keeps me healthy, and I am thankful.
My partner is an amazing cook. Eating is essential but each time he makes us a meal it feels as if I am being indulged. And as this happens every day I sometimes have to pinch myself. But rather than feel guilty after eating we often add up the cost of the wonderful cuisine we’ve consumed. I think an indulgence sits better if it hasn’t cost anything or indeed very little — such as the food we buy.
As we do not generally over eat, food is certainly not a vice of mine.
Another thing we do at meal times is to turn them each into a special occasion. We may have a bottle of wine. Light some candles and put on background music. Phones, computers and such like are switched off, so we are free to enjoy our indulgence fully.
Alcohol
Speaking of wine… I drink too much. Wine definitely feels like more of an indulgence than food — it can be expensive and not so good health wise. I suppose I could say it’s my vice. I’ve lessened my intake over resent months and hope to keep up the good work.
During the second lockdown I was exposed to mould which had a dreadful effect on me both physically and mentally. I suffer from eczema and the spores sent my histamine levels through the roof. After some research I realised that even normally they are too high, which causes allergic reactions, so… I looked at ways to reduce histamine. One was to cut out red wine.
Red wine contains more histamines than white.
Sneezing, flush, headache, diarrhea, skin itch, and shortness of breath are symptoms occurring in patients intolerant to wine after drinking one glass of red wine.
However, I enjoy a couple of glasses of red wine with dinner so decided to delve deeper…
What I found was the Italians put their red wine through rigorous testing and even stick a label on it to show us this has been done. Bless them!
And it appears that the histamine levels are very low in their wines — less than 0.5 mg/l of histamines. Check out the table above and you can see how low this is.
Once I changed completely to Italian wine I felt better, and I noticed the wine tasted nicer in general, due to fewer chemicals and better grapes as well as lower histamine.
Drugs
Recreational drugs have never been an issue for me. Not my bag… I view them as a vice.
Personally I have never been too grounded and think I could have been easily led astray if I had got involved with drugs as a teenager. But thankfully when I was young I had some very sensible friends who kept me on the straight and narrow.
Sex
What a cool indulgence and it is free! They do say the best things in life are free.
I think there should be some kind of parental or educational advice given to young people that informs them once they are of legal age, they are not crazy or weird for wanting kink involved in their lives. All kinds of sexual pleasure should be talked about at this time as long as the parent feels the young adult is emotionally mature enough to handle such concepts. Perhaps on a need to know basis.
From a very young age I had fantasies which at that time I would have been ashamed to admit. When I started getting physical with a boyfriend I’d sometimes think of a dirty story in my head to help me climax. To the young me it seemed I was doing my partner an injustice. Shouldn’t I have been simply concentrating on the moment with him? And what kind of message would an independent girl like me be putting across if I had told my lover that I wanted to be spanked and restrained? I truly wondered if they would have taken advantage? Or, at the very least think I was bad…
So mostly I kept my ideas to myself and often ended up partnering the wrong — really vanilla — guy because I was trying to be “normal” in the sack.
Don’t get me wrong I love me some vanilla now and then, but I need some alternative spice too. However, it took me a long time to accept this. I think I viewed it as a vice I should apologise for, when really with the right person it is a wonderful indulgence that can be shared to strengthen a partnership.
Two consenting adults should never apologise for participating in kinky fun.
By not finding the right road for me earlier I wasn’t being true and actually damaged my self-esteem somewhat. Trying to stay with someone long term who does not share the same pleasure giving likes as you — and won’t even try them — is demoralising and a path which leads to disaster. Unless of course you agree upon having play partners too…
So dear reader, do you indulge? And what are your vices? Grimsby Hackney — Rocky Shores — Sissitrix — Zatanna Dark — Dianne Herbert — Kiki Wellington — Teresa Wymore 🏳️🌈…
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