Is Trauma Going to Be Your Future Excuse?

Is trauma what describes me now?

Trauma is bigger than we think.

It’s difficult to describe, and more difficult to heal from.

We humans are empathetic. Emotions are a big part of our personality.

We care for our loved ones, we don’t want to see them suffer. We want them to be happy.

Some of us will care about them more than ourselves.

Some conflicts may appear because we want them the best ( I mean hopefully)

These conflicts may have many reasons, I can’t generalise, but the fact that 70 % of the world’s population has had a traumatic event, it is more likely that people will behave according to what they have been through.

“Trauma is a response to an intensely stressful event(s) or situations. The effects can be long-lasting, but healing is possible” PsychCentral.com

We now know that trauma is a response.

It’s not the actual event. Okay.

Shock, denial, and change in the mind, body and behavior are responses that overwhelm you psychologically. It has harmful effects on our mental, physical, emotional, social, or spiritual well-being.

So the effects aren’t easy. We have to know that.

A small window of tolerance is a term for the response where you can’t have control over your emotions.

This may be the cause of many relationship conflicts. It can be dangerous.

when you have a small window of tolerance, it means that your friend, or someone else, will have to think 10 times before they speak.

Not only because they are afraid to hurt your feelings, but because you are scaring them, in some way.

This may lead them to trauma too.

“Emotional trauma: The feelings traumatic events leave us with. Characterized by feeling unsafe in one’s body, emotional trauma can alter our brain function and lead to an overarching sense of hopelessness.” PsychCentral.com

So:

Traumatic event ➜ transformation of our brain function ➜ feeling hopeless and unsafety

Emotional trauma is going to affect our relationships. Because we can’t just hide our emotions, especially when it comes from a traumatic event. And people who know you well will notice that something is wrong.

“Also, if your brain is on high-alert for threats, it may be hard to accurately pick up on how others feel and think, or understand their motives. This means communication challenges may arise, and your closest relationships could become strained” PsyckCentral.com

Therefore, we may be aware that something is off. We have to know that what happened before is not normal.

It may be difficult not to see the impact an event had onus, especially if it happened early on ( a childhood trauma, or childhood neglect).

But when many people around you tell you the same thing about yourself, then you have to listen to them, many people can’t just state false opinions on you.

If they are close, they know you well. They don’t want you to be like that or become worse.

But once you know you have trauma, you will have to heal yourself from it. Trauma as an excuse won’t keep your closest people. In contrast, they may choose to just leave you.

So take care of yourself. Try to heal yourself and tell people that you’re trying :)

How Does PTSD Affect the Brain? The Physical Effects of Trauma (psychcentral.com)

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