Is this love? Nope, just sex…
Post-sex feelings —they aren't real and you most probably aren't in love
His face is buried in my pussy from behind…Oh my god it feels good. Then he goes on to pound and grind me to dust…magical fairy dust. I am flying, golden sparkles are floating…
I am like putty in his hands, he is fucking me like there is no tomorrow. When I sit on his face, he just doesn't let me go…even when am done, he loves being there.
He cuddles and spoons after sex, he talks to me about everything in the world. OMG he is perfect. His hands are always on me.
Yeah, that (and much much more) happened…and now I am back in the real world. As I drive back home, images of us are flooding my mind. My thighs are still shaky and I am reveling in the aftershocks of magnificent, wild, sublime sex.
I am overwhelmed with emotions, can't stop thinking about him..and of our time together. Photographic memory doesn't help either. It makes me have flashbacks as clear as day…Feels like I am falling for him. Oh how perfect he is, I wish I could call him and tell him how I feel.
SCREEEEECH……brakes, please.
Hello ..this is your logic speaking — “Calm the fuck down. PUT THAT PHONE AWAY. He is your FWB…remember what that means, FRIEND WITH BENEFITS only, or even FUCKBUDDY. You shouldn’t do anything like telling him feelings. Just sit on your feelings for a while and I bet they will go away. Its the brain honey, it fucking plays games with us”.
I snap out of it. I bet this has happened to some of you too…but we all gotta snap the hell out of it.
Yes I know its pure science, orgasms not only create pleasure in your body they actually affect the brain too…
Here are some facts-
- OXYTOCIN — it's the fuzzy, cuddle hormone. Making you feel attached to the person who just showed you orgasmic wonderland, you bury your face in his chest and he strokes your hair…aah bliss isn't it? could be love right?
- CEREBELLUM — controls your emotional processing, might lead you the wrong way, especially if there was substantial expert cunnilingus.
- DOPAMINE — makes you feel ‘high’, kinda addicting you to it. Might lead to a feeling of clinginess…to make sure you can ride that shaft again.
- HIPPOCAMPUS — which when engaged, can affect memory. So if you are getting flashbacks from when he was pounding you or his face was buried in your ass… it’s just the hippocampus. Sometimes it also blurs out memories i.e bad sex.
- ORBITOFRONTAL CORTEX — remember the leg shake or the weird twitching during orgasm, that out of body feeling momentarily shuts down the orbitofrontal cortex…result — sloppy, emotional decision making.
- VASOPRESSIN — oh beware!! this one is the major troublemaker. Develops attachment, devotion, and protection towards the naked person in your arms. Worst of all, it might lead to feelings and desire for monogamy!! Run … Research has shown nonmonogamous people have a gene that causes less production of vasopressin. Thank goodness!.
Every person experiences different feelings or reactions post-sex. I can only narrate what I have experienced. I think this happens to men and women alike. Some even experience post-coital anxiety. I know that ain't fun either, as I have experienced that too… mostly when the other person in bed has been a jerk.
The brain is indeed a funny place, it creates such intense feelings post-coitus that it gets tough to keep in mind that this is just fucking..nothing more or less.
I am not downplaying the importance of great sex. In fact, I am the greatest advocate of it. Have all the (safe) sex you can …but when the sex is marvelous, and you start to have these feelings….
Remember. It's not love, it's just the fuckin VASOPRESSIN, OXYTOCIN, and their other companions…