avatarKristina God, MBA

Summary

The article discusses the personal journey of the author in reconciling the size of her engagement ring with societal expectations and her own definition of success, ultimately concluding that the ring's size does not correlate with marital success.

Abstract

The author reflects on her father's dissatisfaction with the size of her engagement ring, which sparked initial doubts about the ring's significance. Despite her colleagues' flaunting of larger rings, she found greater meaning in the personal and intimate proposal experience. The author emphasizes that the true measure of success in a relationship is not the size of a ring but the enduring commitment it represents, as evidenced by her still-thriving marriage contrasted with the divorces of those with more ostentatious rings.

Opinions

  • The author initially felt the need to defend her fiancée's choice of a smaller engagement ring against her father's criticism.
  • The author's colleagues' possession of larger diamond rings led to self-reflection about societal norms and personal values.
  • The author believes that the intimate and meaningful context of the proposal, which took place on a mountain at Lake Garda, Italy, was more valuable than the size of the ring.
  • The author considers her ongoing marriage as a true indicator of success, rather than the material aspects of an engagement ring.
  • The author notes that many of her colleagues and her father, who placed importance on the size of the ring, have since gone through divorces, which she implies is a counterpoint to the idea that a larger ring signifies a more successful marriage.

Is The Size Of Your Engagement Ring An Indication Of Success?

Apparently! What do you think?

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A few days ago, my husband and I celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary.

Around 7 years ago, my dad constantly complained about my small engagement ring.

He asked when my fiancée would upgrade it.

I defended my fiancée.

I told my dad about the deeper meaning behind my small engagement ring.

Still, it got me thinking.

Should I ask for an upgrade?

My colleagues had big, shiny diamond rings that they liked to show everyone, and I had only a very small one.

At some point I realized.

An engagement or wedding ring doesn't represent the level of success we’re achieving.

My boyfriends’ surprise on top of a mountain at Lake Garda in Italy meant the world to me. In my view, the ring was perfect.

And hey, we’re still married. That’s success to me.

Most of my former colleagues (and my dad) are already divorced.

Relationships
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