Is Non-Conformity Attractive? If so, How to Stand Out from the Crowd

And make her fall for you.

Looking at photographs from centuries ago, it seems that our ideals of beauty have not changed for generations.

There are things that everyone finds attractive. Even though we all look different, some beauty standards may favor one over the other. And the unfavorable have to work on themselves in order to be attractive.

Sometimes a little uniqueness catches the eye. Humans love novelty, especially when it comes to attractiveness.

Take, for example, beards. The recent fashion for facial hair means that bearded men are doing better in the dating market. However, a few years ago, beard reached its peak and lost its appeal.

A psychological experiment shows that women prefer men who stand out from the crowd. The experiment was conducted on two groups of women.

One group was shown bearded men and asked to rate how attractive they found these men. Another group was shown clean-shaven face men and asked to do the same. Both groups were then shown a mixture of stubbly bearded and clean-shaven faced men.

The results were quite shocking. Women who found bearded men attractive changed their choice to clean-shaven faced men when they were shown a mixture of bearded and clean-shaven faced men. Whereas women who chose clean-shaven faced men changed their choice to bearded men when they were shown the mixed group of men.

The search for novelty has made us successful species. Natural selection favors a taste for the unique. It requires the ability to adapt and adjust to the new environment as it is presented to us. Novelty is crucial for human survival, reproduction, settling, and adaptation.

Our taste in the unusual extends beyond natural selection to cultural choices. That’s why we have fashion. But like beards, some things become less attractive when they are popular.

How to impress a woman even if you’re a weirdo

In a world that can sometimes seem a little too strict about prescription and conformity, it’s more than nice to know that an independent mind is where the sexual sparks lie.

When it comes to dating, both men and women prefer non-conformity. Both men and women are most attracted to profiles of people who seemed to know their minds and are not ashamed to appear natural.

So, if you’ve ever felt like you are too weird to attract a woman, you are not alone. Remember your obscurity is attractive. However, you can spice up your sexual aura to make her notice you.

Master your craft

What skills are you good at? Do you good at wooden jobs? Can you fix a computer? Can you make a campfire? Women notice if you have talent, know-how, and intelligence. And they would rather knock boots with an intelligent and capable man.

Our human craft is divided into four categories: emotional skills: confidence or competence, technical skills: electrical or plumbing repairs, physical skills: driving a car or sewing, and aesthetic skills: drawing or knitting. Whatever skill you have, learn to be a master of your craft.

You can master any skill over time with practice, time, and focus. The more you practice, the better you will get. As you continue to practice, you will eventually develop your own style.

Women tend to be financially supportive these days, so we don’t need you to be a powerful executive, just knowing that you’re good at what you do is sexy to us.

Dress for power

I get why you want to look as natural as possible. But does it hurt to add a little bit of power to your style?

Understanding that your image is power is one advantage you can use to attract a woman. Power can be a complex topic for men. Power is the ability to get things done. But your personal power is the ability to act with boldness, competence, and confidence, and is expressed through what you wear.

The outfits you choose should express key components of your personal power. The focus should be on you- the man in the clothes, not the clothes on a man.

The combination of easy style and accessories can make any woman look at you twice. Wear a beautiful watch with good shine and shine to attract attention in the form of compliments.

A combination of clear cut style and accessories can get any woman to turn around to look at you twice. Wear a nice watch with a good gloss and shine to attract positive attention in the form of compliments.

Do the same with the style of your sunglass frames or wear shoes that have two-tone colors that are complimentary to your attire.

By taking control of your image and outfit to convey your powers, you create a visual representation of yourself to show confidence, skill, and competence. This visual representation of yourself shows the value you bring to the table.

Make her laugh

Most of the weirdos I know have a great sense of humor, but they barely use it. They try to imitate the bad guys they see on Netflix. However, your humor may be all you need to attract a woman.

Stop hiding your quirks. Women find men irresistible if they have a sense of humor. Men who can make them laugh and who are also willing to joke around. They want you to have a little bit of weirdness in you, to be unique and be your own man.

Having a sense of humor is not just about telling jokes after jokes. If it were that easy, a talkative could be the funniest person in the world. Nor is it about acting like a clown.

Being funny goes beyond that. A funny person is someone who is genuinely happy at heart and uses situations around them to create something funny out of nothing.

Women want someone who can laugh at themselves and laugh at life. A person who can make them laugh even when they are stressed or depressed.

Being funny starts with positivity. So be optimistic in your approach to life and develop the ability to always see the bright side of everything.

Speak in a drowsy voice

You know when you say our name in the morning and we immediately lean over your chest and kiss you? It’s because of how your voice sounds. There’s something about that muzzy, deep, sleepy voice that makes us want to keep listening to you.

I once had a male friend (not a romantic one), whose voice got me mesmerized whenever he was talking to me. He’s the sarcastic type but also very shy when I tease him about his voice.

When we hang out, he gets the all attention of ladies and gentlemen as his voice, though deep but soothing, echoes through the room. He’s a hard miss when you bump into a group of people talking on the street.

Women prefer men with deeper voices, and it is easier to remember a man with a deep voice than a man with a high-pitched voice. And a strong, deep voice can make a man seem more confident and authoritative.

The depth of a voice is primarily determined by the length and thickness of the vocal cords. Longer and thicker vocal cords produce lower pitches. So if you want a deeper voice, all you need to do is make your vocal cords thicker and longer.

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to increase the length and thickness of your vocal cords. But if you naturally have a deep voice, don’t feel weird about it. It makes you hot as fuck.

Have a charming personality

Conformity defines attractiveness by appearance. But fortunately for you, most women ain’t tripping for the misogynistic sexy guy. Girls are suckers for great personalities.

This doesn’t mean you can show up on your first date looking sweaty, dirty, gross, and unkept then expect her to find you appealing just because you have a well-caved mustache and six packs. No!

And no girl wants to date a guy who snorts during a conversation, either. Women want a guy who knows his stuff and can hold up his end of the conversation and actually make them think. It’s really sexy!

Take care of yourself! If you have poor hygiene, you will not be able to attract the girl you want. Having great physic is not a free pass to stop taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Women crush on guys with charming personalities.

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