Is Marriage a Good Fit for You?

Sharing my thoughts about marriage

I suppose the answer is personal. Some people are more accustomed to a life of freedom without the constraints of a family. Many are happily married, while others are dissatisfied with their marriage.

Everybody always puts on their best image during courtship. It is comparable to a job interview. You present yourself as the best candidate for the job. After being hired, it is evaluated whether you can deliver on the promises you made during the interview.

Similarly, during courtship, they are kind, sweet, polite, considerate, romantic, passionate, creative, and so on.

Reality sets in after the wedding and honeymoon. Your spouse may be impatient, lazy, uncooperative, unkind, rude, or unromantic. Or perhaps not — only time will tell.

What happened after the honeymoon?

Communication problems arise in the marriage. You are doomed to an unloving relationship unless you can adjust your response appropriately in joint decisions. It is no longer what you want or I want. It must be what we want to do.

According to a social media post, men only require four things in marriage: food, sleep, sex, and computer games. I respectfully disagree.

Men, too, require a companion who will listen to all of their life’s frustrations. He also needs someone to share his joy and accomplishments. Likewise, a woman also needs someone who lovingly cares about her.

You’ve already guessed the answer to my question.

Do not marry if you want everything done your way all of the time. Decisions are made jointly in marriage.

Marriage is also out if you work a job that requires commitment around the clock. Marriage requires regular communication throughout the day, and the relationship will suffer if you are absent for extended periods.

Finally, staying single is the better option if you want complete freedom of time, finances, and decision-making.

Everything in life has two sides to it. You can’t have happiness without sacrificing something. You are a good candidate for a marriage partner if you are a team player and can tolerate the quirks of others.

Otherwise, it is best to remain single. I hope my many years of marriage can provide you with some insights.

Thank you for reading.