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Summary

The article discusses the author's preference for "vanilla" sex over kinky or BDSM practices, questioning the prevalence of kinks in modern sexual culture and pondering the compatibility of sexual preferences in relationships.

Abstract

The author of the article expresses a personal inclination towards traditional, romantic sex, referred to as "vanilla," and questions the current trend that seems to favor kinky sex and fetishes. The article reflects on the societal perception that vanilla sex is dull, arguing that it can be just as fulfilling as any other form of sexual expression. Concerned about the apparent rise in kinky preferences, the author wonders about the statistical distribution of vanilla versus kinky sex enjoyment. The piece also touches on the influence of pornography on sexual expectations and the challenges faced when sexual preferences clash in a relationship. The author emphasizes the importance of communication and compatibility in sexual matters, while also acknowledging that sex is not the sole defining factor of a relationship.

Opinions

  • The author prefers vanilla sex, finding it more appealing than kinky or BDSM practices.
  • There is a concern that the prevalence of kinky sex in popular culture may be overstated or influenced by pornography.
  • The author believes that each person should be free to express their sexual preferences, whether vanilla or kinky.
  • The article suggests that there might be a misconception that vanilla sex is boring.
  • The author is curious about the percentage of people who prefer vanilla sex and their reasons for doing so.
  • The influence of pornography is noted as a possible factor in the perceived increase in kinky sexual practices.
  • The author is open to discussing sexual preferences and compatibility, highlighting the importance of these discussions in relationships.
  • There is an acknowledgment that while sex is an important part of a relationship, it is not the only factor that determines compatibility.
  • The author encourages readers to share their own experiences and stories regarding sexual preferences and compatibility in relationships.
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Is Everyone Into Kinky Sex These Days?

Nowadays sexual fantasies and kinks are the in thing and vanilla sex is out. Or that’s how it seems. People make vanilla sex out to be boring, but personally I prefer it over some hardcore BDSM fantasy. I don’t care about being tied up or whipped, I’d prefer romantic, gentle sex.

But hey, each to their own.

And because there are so many fetishes out there, it makes me wonder where all the vanilla people are. I’m curious to know the percentage of people who enjoy vanilla sex over kinky sex and why they prefer it.

I was having a conversation with a guy who said he liked vanilla sex but also enjoyed being dominant and rough. I did a little google on what rough sex involved. Safe to say I am not interested or turned on by that. No thanks, I don’t want to be choked, slapped or thrown around.

Call me boring, but vanilla just seems nicer.

Is there a fetish for soft, romantic sex?

So, is it because of porn that every Tom, Dick, and Harry want to tie you up, suck your toes and pretend to be a pornstar? Is that why everyone is ‘kinky’ all of a sudden, or is it because it’s 2019 and everyone feels like they can be themselves?

It’s great that people feel like they can be free with their kinks, but I’m curious to know; has everyone turned kinky but me?

What are you meant to do if you date someone and it seems to be going well, but then they reveal their sexual fantasy and it’s not something you’re really into. Do you end things or do you give it a try?

Maybe they’re really kinky and you’re as vanilla as they come. What do you do then? Does that mean you two aren’t compatible or do you have to be open-minded and try it out first before ending things?

Let’s say you give it a go but it doesn’t do anything for you. Do you tell them it’s not going to work between the two of you or do you just sweep it under the rug and never do it again?

I know sex isn’t the most important thing in a relationship, but it is an important part of it. So, if you two aren’t compatible in that aspect of your realtionship how do you work around that issue?

It’s a tricky subject that I’m sure a lot of us are curious about. Drop a comment down below if you’d like to share your own stories.

Thanks for reading. Have a great day ❤

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