Intuition or Lessons Learned?
Inspired by this week’s prompt.

People often talk about how lucky some people are. Some people do seem to get more breaks or things tend to go their way. But, if we studied them, we would find out how hard they worked when people weren’t looking. How many opportunities they have looked into. How many times they have tried and failed, until finally they “get lucky”. They end up with a great job, make a professional sports team, or write the next great novel. Some may not deserve the situation they fell into, but many put in the leg work, did the research, put in the long hours learning their craft, and finally got lucky.
I believe some people are more intuitive than other people. I believe that some people are more empathetic than other people. I also believe that people can improve their skills in both these things.
My premise is that intuition involves knowing people in general, involves knowing situations, and their possible outcomes. Some people study other people. They get to know patterns of behavior. This happens best when you have healed from past traumas.
There is a difference between reacting to a person or situation because you have been hurt before and analyzing behaviors and situations. If your mind is objectively looking at people and situations looking for patterns and seeing, say, a seventy-five percent chance of a bad outcome, then intuitively deciding you want no part of it or making suggestions of an alternative plan. This is following your gut. It happens subconsciously.
I have trauma from my childhood, I have trauma from past relationships, and I have many positive relationships and situations. I can use all of this learned behavioral information to guide me in the future.
As time passes, I might not even recall the reason that my gut is telling me this but I have learned to trust it. We are our past. We are everything good and bad that has happened to us. If we work on healing the past, learning from it, growing from it, and benefitting from it then we can use it to help us grow, help us make better decisions.
My point is that we are all trying to grow, trying to move from reacting in a situation to responding. Having read and having agreed with Diana on acting from trauma can be acting on an unhealed wound, my point is, if we do heal, we can gain knowledge about how people behave.
Police and intelligence organizations use behavioral profilers to do their jobs. You can become your own profiler if you are responding and acting out of knowledge instead of acting out of hurt or pain. If we look at every situation as an opportunity to learn about ourselves and others, if we look at everything from a growth model and not an injury model, then I believe we can all be more intuitive.






