Interact With People Like You’re Paid To Do It

Behold, introverts from the underground!

Imagine that for every person you know, you gain 10 bucks. Would you be rich or broke?

This is a great deal of pain for introverts, I know. Extroverts cheering on their bucks, keep quiet, because both of you can make more money with this helpful guide.

I know you want it but let me explain how I came to this article.

Paid for Communicating

Many of you have worked or are working in the customer service sector and know the importance of connecting: it can make you more or less money.

As an ex cabin-crew and a great extrovert (you know, the guy that speaks so loudly that no one can hear anything else except him) my work was to entertain and serve people during their trip.

I knew I was good at this, but I had to reconsider my ability when I flew with the pros: their capacity of communication was their main stream of income and it was reflected through their leadership and selling capacity.

They were selling machines, everyone with a different style but with only one common trait: they were speaking a lot.

Yes, speaking a lot can be a flaw to many people, and I agree. But when it comes to effective communication, talking endlessly is the ultimate advantage: it opens the doors of the hearts of people and you can close sells without selling.

Every cabin-crew must be good at speaking, but the pros were excellent, and they taught me a lot just by staying with them.

So, I’m going to show you how you can become the master of the universe with the unique skill of communication. Ready?

Step One: Define Your Value

So many people don’t value themselves enough. They seem to see only flaws and sins in them. And it’s a terrible start for your communication.

What I saw in all these pros was their valuing themselves: they were able to attract the results because they have attracted the life of their dreams.

What does it mean?

It means you have to work on yourself everyday, to be what you want to be. Feeling enough is the way you can chill and make yourself a good prospect to interact with.

It’s not easy, and I’m aware of it, but this is a guide about a lifetime improvement of people who now are masters of the art of communication, so if you want an easy “How to Conquer the World Doing Nothing” guide, I advice you to leave the article.

So, how can you work on your value?

One single piece of advice: write down your points of strength and work on them. It’s the only way to be yourself, without imitating the success of others: you are the master of your universe.

Step Two: Make It Real

Too many “How To” videos without a real experience. Let me guess: you are afraid to speak to people, right? You are looking for the ultimate piece of advice to overcome the anxiety?

No worries, I have the answer for you: start talking to people.

This is the greatest piece of advice I can give you from my experience, take it or leave it.

People think extroverted people are great talkers, but they need a lot of practice and learning too. When I was a cabin-crew, I started studying communication, learning from the pros and practicing what I learnt with a public of 198 passengers.

Every day I was feeling anxious before speaking, and it was a matter of time that I learnt to enjoy myself and my mistakes. You need to keep yourself outside of your mind and acting like you’re an idiot if it helps.

A lot of time I purposely talked like an idiot to keep people talking to me. It’s funny to see the reaction of people while you confuse them: it’s what makes me alive, to know people and playing with my destiny.

Life is a wonderful game, where you can win a lot if you are willing to play.

Step Three: Communication Is Your Job

Being safe means having someone watching your back. And that’s how I assured myself during my life: I value friendships because they’re precious alliances to me.

The only way to make it possible is to make it your n.1 side hustle: communication can bring you far if you practice enough to make it your talent, it just gives you the power of entering in any room and feel comfortable instead of being lonely and sad.

As an extrovert, I made my communication success mainly through three channels:

• School
• Parties
• Referrals

The first two channels were my greatest pleasures: they helped me get ahead of all the worries of talking to strangers. I had put myself in situations were being highly communicative was a must for my survival:to enjoy my day the way I wanted to, I had to be always finding someone who was willing to go on an adventure with me, and there was always someone ready for my crazy ideas.

Thanks to this talent, I got to know half of my school (and the other half knew me indirectly) and I was enjoying the results of my “hard” work: people valuing and respecting you, an assurance to be protected from any threats, a lifetime guarantee to have lot of fun and a sense of eternal joy.

Also, I was getting invited to a lot of parties: in 2016 I had a full 6 months schedule of free parties!

Referrals are what made me even greater: people speak of you if you make a good impression and the only problem is that you don’t know how many people will get to know you indirectly.

Taking seriously your communication skills has made me become the most discussed guy in my class and one of the most discussed in the school, and as everyone I had to start from scratch.

But the only reason why I succeeded was this: I was curious.

People are incredible (not everyone, but most of them): they can tell you story you couldn’t believe they happened, they can be your next love or your next best friend. You never know.

That’s why I love to connect and ILLUMINATION is a great place to practice for me: people are open to share their opinion with you, and you can learn a lot from them if you’re curious enough to ask them something.

Step Four: Love Rejections

People reject for a few reasons: they’re busy or they’re not interested. It’s not because you are a bad person, simply they evaluate their lives and think you’re not a good fit right now.

Maybe they have too many friends, maybe they’re shy, maybe they’re nervous and socially awkward. You cannot say it’s you and only you the fault.

I understood that this morning: you can’t expect all the people you meet will accept you in their lives.

Many of them will accept you if you think in a certain way, or dress like them: people want to be safe in their tiny world, so if you don’t match their needs, don’t worry, you will match with someone else’s needs.

It’s important you always understand what’s going on in the lives of the people you meet: it gives you an insight about whether they would be happy or not to be part of your life.

That’s life, and we’re all different. So don’t be discouraged by a rejection, but be encouraged by it instead: you are living your life to the fullest, you’re not hiding yourself and above all, you’re learning something valuable about people.

Step Five: Stop Caring

Be present in the moment, experience every feeling that might occur. Stop caring about what other people might think, because they are too busy to think about you.

It’s funny, but we’re so selfish that we think people are constantly looking at us and judging our actions (unless you’re walking by the street naked).

The only way to enjoy yourself is to accept you’re vulnerable and people are different in tastes and preferences. So why be so hard on yourself when people reject?

It is useful for you to understand you need to give yourself permission to know people, to feel the joy of being known by more and more people, to feel the energy when you walk through the street and people recognize you. It’s an amazing feeling, and I want you to experience it.

Stop caring because you deserve to know people you would like to know.

Stop caring because people will be blaming people forever.

Stop caring because you want the world to know you.

Stop caring because you deserve to be alive.

Stop caring because life is wonderful, and you know I’m right.

Final Thoughts

Cultivating you communication skill is an ever ending quest, but it can bring you wherever you want. Whether you’re looking to boost your writing career, to launch a product or making new friends, this guide is the kick in the ass you need to stop caring and start enjoying life.

If you are still thinking you need more content to learn how to speak with people, I must say you’re stuck in the “beginner’s hell”. Get out of it reading again my article, and act before it’s too late.

While is a little bit intimidating, I admit, to know new people, I also admit that is exciting to know your fears are just keeping you back from a life of abundance and great enjoyment.

Once again:

Stop Caring and Start Living Life!