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In Times Of Extreme Hardship, I Follow The Principle Of “It’s OK” With A Smile
Have you ever knocked your elbow in the door while closing it, the extreme pain that just makes you scream,
Ouch, Ahh f**k, this sh*t.
It just triggers a fit of anger, the rage disrupts everything and you just feel like you have had enough. You’re doing it the wrong way. In most cases, there is a slight opportunity — a window that opens up in the pain and the outburst. That is where I follow the principle of It’s OK with a smile.
There are many a time we are surrounded by struggles that will make us bleed, scream, and even wail. But most times, I usually control myself and say it’s OK.
“If pain must come, may it come quickly. Because I have a life to live, and I need to live it in the best way possible. If he has to make a choice, may he make it now? Then I will either wait for him or forget him.” ― Paulo Coelho
The Philosophy behind this principle is that you have to take control of the situation and act wisely. There is always a window of opportunity during our pain, should we choose to take it — the pain disappears completely and we have a positive outlook on the situation because of it.
Otherwise, if we let it trigger the outbursts, It will make us lose ourselves in the rage. The negativity will cause a lot of harm to our mental health and thus our daily life as well so much so it will just dismantle our routine.
In another example, when your toe hits the bedside or the door. Instead of saying,
F*ckkkkk, Damnn itt
Take a deep breath, in that outburst window — and say It’s OK with a smile. Try this method, it always works because you will engage yourself and your mind towards a positive outlook.
Thus, It could be applied to any other mishappening as well such as you burning your gums by eating an Extra Hot Pizza Slice. Or drinking really hot coffee.
You can feel better by doing and practicing this above method. I always try to strive for a positive outlook on life, and also accept the negative as part of the process. Because without the pain, the joy won’t exist. Thus, there is an opportunity of joy as well in the pain that follows.
It might hurt, but you can smile, and say It’s All Right.
There is always a choice for us to be happy, our imagination is a wild thing — in our pain while we scream, I usually try to scream as the fat lady in the opera e.g. Requirem Lacrimosa Mozart. That adds humor, in the pain I’m experiencing — it gives me the joy to experience that scenario, It should serve you as well too.
The mindset that I strive for using the “It’s Ok” Principle focuses on three key points.
1. When it hits, Brace for Impact.
The first point gives the mind a signal that you should get ready for what’s coming — It gives you the ability to anticipate the amount of pain. Thus if you train your mind for impact, you can take control of the situation really well instead of it taking control of you.
“… We need the sweet pain of anticipation to tell us we are really alive.” ― Albert Camus
Bracing for impact is a critical thinking process for minimizing the pain, It will hurt but when you make up your mind for it, it hurts less than what you imagine. Thus imagine the lesser-known, positive side. It helps you to mitigate the negative mindset and thus allows you to assess and experience the situation differently.
This mental process significantly lowers the effects of what will transpire as you experience it forward.
2. Breathe deeply, Inhale and Exhale
In the split second of experiencing the surge, if you breathe it will increase the blood flow and also help you to circulate the pain very easily reducing muscle tension. Otherwise, it will hurt a lot. I do this, and I breathe swiftly — It helps. In a minute or less, the pain slowly disappears.
Otherwise, if you throw a fit of rage, it stays there for a while. Breathing deeply helps you to maintain your senses — keeps you in control. Just take a step back, and breathe deeply in that split second. Practice breathing, it will help when it happens.
Take a breath in “oooooof” when it hits and just release “fooooo.”
Deep breathing helps you to channel it, reducing muscle tension and thereby lessening pain.
3. Smile, and say It’s Ok — Even try to laugh and cheer yourself.
This step is the climax, and perhaps the finale that gives you the chance to take a painful experience and win big with a mood adjustment and perhaps a tale to tell how you conquered your pain.
“Laughter is wine for the soul — laughter soft, or loud and deep, tinged through with seriousness — the hilarious declaration made by man that life is worth living.” ― Sean O’Casey
Saying, It’s Ok right after you breathe will help you to maintain an optimistic mood and push to strive for a positive mindset. The smiling helps with giving yourself a break to take some joy from the pain.
“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ― Nicolas Chamfort
Laughing your remaining pain away is how you show yourself that you have the strength and you’re strong. It shows a lot of courage and also uplifts your self-esteem and self-respect for yourself.
The best way to experience any situation is with a mindset of exploring it through joy, the more positive spirited you become, the easier it gets for you to experience all that life throws at you.
Smile and say It’s All Right. You’re going to be A-Ok.
It not only helps you to strive for a better way to deal with negative situations but also gives you a retrospective towards life and everything in between.
I hope the next time, you experience such a situation on any hardship in life — you are able to mitigate the effects on yourself using the “It’s Ok Principle”.
“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.” ― Rumi
Thank you for reading.
Stay Blessed and Stay Safe!
And Remember, It’s going to be OK 😄
