I’m a Hopeless Romantic in a Hookup Culture

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ncurably romantic heart. I can see the romance in an ordinary day — just sharing life and loving each other. I’m not immune to a Hollywood moment — a romantic kiss on the Eiffel Tower, dancing in the rain or wrapping love letters in ribbon to store away. I can also see the charm in sitting together reading while drinking coffee or relaxing together to mindless entertainment after a tough day.</p><p id="35ff">I think there’s something beautifully romantic about waking up every day and choosing to love this one flawed human being we’ve chosen.</p><p id="aef8">Hookup culture will always be what it is. It just might go by a different name or develop new techniques as technology advances. It’s human nature to find physical intimacy much easier than emotional intimacy. Still, I walk around with stars in my eyes believing that more is possible.</p><p id="d726" type="7">There’s something beautifully romantic about waking up every day and choosing to love this one flawed human being we’ve chosen.</p><h2 id="5de6">Finding romance in my single life.</h2><p id="5a14">I decided to stop waiting for romance to show up, for someone to sweep me off my feet. I like my feet on the ground and my eyes on the stars. I decided to infuse romance into my everyday life. If I couldn’t find romance in relationships, I could create it for myself.</p><p id="dcf0">There’s romance in making a home and filling it with love and laughter. I find romance in my garden — from planting to seeds to nurturing them into blooms. If there’s dancing in the rain, my children are there beside me — and even when I’m dancing alone, the music speaks to me, and it is beautiful.</p><p id="5e9a" type="7">If I couldn’t find romance in relationships, I could create it for myself.</p><p id="634f">So, maybe it’s not so bad to be a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture. It’s whatever we choose to make it. I decided to make it whimsical and wonderful, to infuse magic into o

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I walk around with stars in my eyes believing that more is possible.

Hookup culture isn’t new. It’s just gotten more technologically advanced. When I was younger, they’d call it “hanging out” when they meant “hooking up.” There was no Netflix, so we didn’t yet have Netflix and chill — but we had the Blockbuster equivalent.

I just aged myself there, but I don’t mind. My point is that it’s the same world with different technology. Dating is still looking for love but finding more hookup opportunities instead. While some hookups lead to love, many lead nowhere at all.

This isn’t a judgment of hookup culture.

I don’t see sex as something shameful — provided we’re talking about two fully and enthusiastically consenting adults. We have needs, and it’s healthy to express them. But I do think it’s a particular kind of hell to be a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture.

I’ve never been one to meet up with a stranger for sex, but at the same time, I’m not opposed to casual relationships either. I keep an open mind. But deep down, there’s always going to be a part of me that longs for genuine romance — and intimacy that is more than physical.

It’s a particular kind of hell to be a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture.

Genuine romance is a beautiful thing.

Some people think that romance only happens at the start of relationships, but I don’t see it that way. Excuse my incurably romantic heart. I can see the romance in an ordinary day — just sharing life and loving each other. I’m not immune to a Hollywood moment — a romantic kiss on the Eiffel Tower, dancing in the rain or wrapping love letters in ribbon to store away. I can also see the charm in sitting together reading while drinking coffee or relaxing together to mindless entertainment after a tough day.

I think there’s something beautifully romantic about waking up every day and choosing to love this one flawed human being we’ve chosen.

Hookup culture will always be what it is. It just might go by a different name or develop new techniques as technology advances. It’s human nature to find physical intimacy much easier than emotional intimacy. Still, I walk around with stars in my eyes believing that more is possible.

There’s something beautifully romantic about waking up every day and choosing to love this one flawed human being we’ve chosen.

Finding romance in my single life.

I decided to stop waiting for romance to show up, for someone to sweep me off my feet. I like my feet on the ground and my eyes on the stars. I decided to infuse romance into my everyday life. If I couldn’t find romance in relationships, I could create it for myself.

There’s romance in making a home and filling it with love and laughter. I find romance in my garden — from planting to seeds to nurturing them into blooms. If there’s dancing in the rain, my children are there beside me — and even when I’m dancing alone, the music speaks to me, and it is beautiful.

If I couldn’t find romance in relationships, I could create it for myself.

So, maybe it’s not so bad to be a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture. It’s whatever we choose to make it. I decided to make it whimsical and wonderful, to infuse magic into ordinary moments, and to see the romance in a life well lived.