If Your Abuser Says You Provoke Him To Abuse You Then Slap Him Twice

I want to tell people that family violence happens to anybody, no matter how nice your house is, no matter how intelligent you are. — Rosie Batty

Those people who stop you from sharing your domestic violence story they are the problem too. Stay away from them. Discard them. Then come back to writing your story again. — Gurpreet Dhariwal

When someone asked me about “How can I stop abusing someone I’m in a relationship with? My wife provokes me, and I end up physically abusing her. I regret it but end up doing it whenever provoked. What do I do?”

I couldn’t start answering on a lighter note.

Can you slap yourself? If not, come to India and I would do the honor.

Who the hell are you to physically abuse someone? Didn’t your parents raise you well? And you are a NARCISSIST. Yeah, a NARCISSIST. (I had to write narcissists in caps because I yelled at him while typing my answer).

Only narcissists do this kind of abusive shit and then blame the victim with provocation charges. Are you really into senses? Or Shall I come over there and kick your butt for you to make the sensible decisions in your life?

What kind of moron asks these kinds of questions that I am happily abusing because I have no control over my mind. Like really? Tell me, this isn’t the truth.

Your wife and the woman you are in a relationship with must collaborate and take the baseball bat in their hands and teach you a great lesson.

Why aren’t there any rules for breaking the legs of men who hit women? Who are you to bring wrath on someone else because you are mentally unstable?

Go and get yourself treated.

And never tell me again you are hitting a woman. May you burn in hell.

You don’t have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future. — Jane Green

Hail to DV survivors Hail to DV warriors Hail to those who hear our stories Hail to those who spread the word ahead Hail to those who speak up.

Sending blessings your way, today and always.

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Let’s do our part and speak up for those who were asked to be silent. Let’s keep roaring like lions.

*Sharing it here from one of my responses on Quora.

Gurpreet Dhariwal is the author of Three books. Her books are available on Amazon, Flipkart, and BlueRose. Connect with Gurpreet at www.gurpreetdhariwal.com