If You Think Women Don’t Think of Sex on the Hour, You’re Wrong

She doesn’t want sex because her body can’t take it, but rather she’s not getting the satisfaction she wants

I like reading influential books. When I’m bored or looking to pass the time, I would pick up a self-development book about stocks or marketing. If it’s a novel, it will be science fiction or mystical than a romance.

This time I was reading “Reminiscences of a Stock Operator,” when I suddenly felt a throb in between my leg. My nipples were thick. My fingers were shaky. My thighs were wet.

And my cunt?

Oh boy! They tickled like a jellyfish out of water.

I couldn’t imagine why or how a non-fiction book of the boring life of a stock trader could have such an exhilarating effect on my body. To the point, I became restless sitting on the cushion.

There are no sex scenes in this book unless you count financial securities and exchanges as sexy.

I immediately sprang up to my feet.

Like a headless chicken, I tried to wrap my head around the situation. I was resisting myself from running off to my room and pulling out my dildo from my wardrobe.

“Be quiet pussy!” I yelled.

The sound of my own voice tickled my ear. I was shocked and confused.

What was happening to me?

Surely, a lame-ass book can’t possibly be the reason my body is acting up. My senses were down. In that intricate desire, I was vulnerable.

Hell, I was high as fuck!

I needed something to shut down my brain. To stop me from imagining what was running through that pesky head of mine. I tried to recall my workout session that morning. I thought about the stocks I was planning to buy over the week. What I was going to cook for dinner.

But Sir!

It didn’t help. Instead, my mind drifted off to a fantasy land.

I stood by the window. I felt my cheeks turn red at his gaze. Heat blazed in his eyes as they locked onto mine. It warmed me inside, pulled me to him like gravity, and I took a few steps forward.

As if he knew I was waiting for this moment. He quickly pulls me closer and wraps his arms around my waist. His kiss was passionate.

I clung to him, unable to stand on my own as his lips moved deftly over my throat, kissing and nibbling. The scent of him engulfed my mind, making it impossible for me to think clearly.

Maybe I didn’t want to think at all. I have waited and longed for his touch. His kiss went from sweetly intense to painfully intense and almost bruising my lips.

I was lost, drowning in an ocean of pleasure. I felt like I was floating in the air. My feet no longer touching the ground. He pinned my hands above my head.

Desire and hunger shot through his eyes, and he pressed his lips to mine. His hands caressed me to great heights that were both terrifying and exciting. A strange feeling of excitement and impatience overtakes my being.

I wanted him to go deeper. I wrapped my arms at the back of my head and deepened the kiss, thrusting him closer as if he wasn’t close enough. He got the message.

All rational thoughts fled my head, and my body became alive.

Before I could protest, I heard the tearing sound of fabric. I quickly opened my eye. It was my bed sheet. I have been daydreaming.

Furious, I stormed into my room, picked my dildo, and hit the shower to finish what I had started.

This was one of those times when I was dreaded being single. You miss out on erotic sex when you want it. All you can do is daydream and fantasize in your lonesome.

It was not the first time. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve bit my lip or knocked my leg against something while daydreaming.

But this time, it was strange.

I have not exposed my mind to sexual thoughts that would take me to wonderland.

So I did a little digging. Curiosity kills a cat, they say. This time, this cat will kill her curiosity. Continue reading to know what I discovered about uncontrollable sexual triggers in women.

Do you know hormonal changes can affect arousal?

Everything you think you know about sex is a lie!

We have heard that women are more likely to have a monogamous relationship because we only want an emotional connection. While men just want sex and more sex.

It turns out that hormones play an important role in women’s sex drive.

Women’s libido tends to plummet when they are in a long-term relationship, but the same is not true for men.

A woman’s sex drive fluctuates due to many factors. From hormonal changes to pregnancy and chronic diseases, many things can determine a woman’s libido and how they respond to sexual desires.

Social and cultural facts also influence the female sex drive, and studies have shown how women’s sexual attitudes, customs, and desires were influenced more by their environment than by men.

But most importantly, most men don’t hit the G-spot, which can set a woman off and invariably kills her sex drive. I heard no idea what G-spot was, let alone heard of A-spot for that matter until I was celibate.

Self-sex helped me discover all the pleasure hotspots in my body. Women seek them out, and when they can’t find them, they gradually lose interest in sex.

Why “Women Don’t Like Sex as Much as Men” Is a Myth

Yes, we do have wet dreams too. Mine has hit a mountain height after I turned 30. It’s like I can’t turn it off.

Okay, let me tell you a secret. I started writing on Medium to get rid of all the intense sexual feelings that were suffocating me.

I was involuntarily celibate for more than five years. Shocking, isn’t it? I didn’t realize I was going through hormonal changes until I started experiencing embarrassing wet dreams.

Thanks to my fantasies and self pleasures, now I feel more comfortable dating, and my sex life couldn’t be more satisfying.

Women are too embarrassed to admit they have wet dreams because society sees it as something that only happens to men.

But one thing is clear; this is not an exclusive men-only thing.

This is another one of those things about sex that we think only applies to men, but it just isn’t true.

Now that I know that it’s normal for women to have wet dreams, the game changes for me. I can now have more …hmmm, without feeling embarrassed.

Sexual desire increases with age

After I asked some of my 30-year-old friends if they felt like this, they almost attacked me; they were so excited.

Their response was, “Oh my God, yes!” “Things are very hot now” and “Totally; it’s strange.”

A common thread with all of us is that we have children in the middle or adolescent stage; our children are definitely more independent, which gives us more energy.

Women with older children are also not touched or thrown all day. They can spend more time on self-care, which makes them happier.

These things make sense, of course, but I wondered if there is something else going on in the female body with our hormones at this age.

It turns out that middle-aged women are more likely to satisfy numerous sexual desires than girls in their twenties.

Experts say, as women approach menopause, their hormone levels drop and peak at different times. Estrogen starts to drop, and when testosterone stabilizes, it’s like testosterone rises, i.e., higher libido.

Also, as a woman ages, she may become more comfortable with her sexuality or, in some cases, if she has not had a child, there may be an increased desire to procreate, increasing her libido.

Women are wired to have more sexual desire

The question of who has a more sexual desire is not just about gender. It also depends on our views on libido. We tend to think of it as a spontaneous hormonal drive, like thirst or hunger.

However, research in sexology shows that this is an outdated way of looking at libido, at least if the idea is attributed to women.

There are two different styles of sexual desire: spontaneous and responsive.

Spontaneous libido is what we are most used to. It is a sensation that comes out of nowhere, in the middle of a meal or a walk.

The responsive desire, however, is a reaction to our physical arousal. It must be triggered by something, perhaps a sexual fantasy, a strangely attractive look, or a sensual touch, for a responsive desire to occur.

In general, men are more inclined to a spontaneous desire style, while women are more inclined to a responsive desire style.

When women choose their partner, their idea of ​​connection is not limited only to sex. Once they have sex with their partners, women are more likely to fulfill all their sexual desires with the same man.

Women hit their sexual peak late

Most men reach their sexual peak in their late teens, while women reach their sexual peak in their mid-30s or 40s.

Most people have associated men’s sexual peak with high libido, not necessarily sexual satisfaction. That is why men enjoy satisfying sex their entire lives. But for women, the sexual peak is often associated with sexual pleasure, which tends to increase with age as people do.

It is not so easy to identify a clear peak for both men and women. Sex drive constantly fluctuates and is related to many more factors than age. You will see your sexual desire and activity go up and down many times over a lifetime.

Although judging by my rapid sexual changes, I can confirm that this study was correct. I am a single mother. I have been celibate. I’ve been in and out of relationships, and I can say that my new addiction to sex definitely came with my age.

Our bodies change as we age, but generally, our capacity for intimacy increases. Men and women of all ages can have exciting and satisfying sex lives regardless of their age.

That women can get turned on by various sex scenes, like watching monkeys having sex or gay men having sex, a pattern of arousal not seen in lustful straight men shows how that truly women have a higher libido.

This apparently contradicts our socially fabricated assumption that women are naturally more sexually restrained than men and therefore better suited to monogamy.

Women are attracted to touch or talk than sex

Yes, men may be more sexually attracted to the female body than vice versa, but women have other very important reasons that trigger their desire to have more sex than men.

Could it possible I may have touched myself on the wrong end? No! I didn’t, which is why it was weird.

Women bond first and then indulge in sex, not the other way around. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to bond with their partners after sex.

However, women prefer to be careful in this field. For them, this starts with touching, talking, and then leading to sex. And once women have reached that last stage, they are more likely to become aroused more often.

While genital stimulation was more important to men, women essentially needed their conscious brains shut off to have a real orgasm.

So contrary to popular opinion that ‘women don’t like sex,’ that’s a fallacy. Women like sex…a lot! The problem is that at some point in a relationship, men just want to get in and out, but women want to feel everything while you are inside her because that’s the only way we can satisfy our urges.

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