If You Don’t Want To Make Enemies, Avoid This

Put aside your ego and win the world

I remember as a kid, I used to argue with my friends a lot. I always tried to prove myself right to boost my ego. However, I did not realize that I was winning the arguments but I was losing my friends.

That’s what happens when we try to prove ourselves right and feel good. We might achieve a small victory but we have to pay a big price.

Let’s understand this with the help of an example. Let’s say you go to your friend’s birthday party and you are having dinner with him and other people. You are conversing with other people and suppose your friend talks about history and he said something wrong.

Suddenly you jump into the conversation saying that he made a mistake since you are 100% sure you are right.

You and your friend start arguing, and you win the argument. You feel good about yourself and people around you start praising your knowledge.

But think from your friend’s perspective. It is his birthday and you made him feel like a loser. You hurt his feeling just to prove that you know more than him.

You might have gained other people’s respect but you lost your friend there.

The moral of the story is:

“Don’t argue unnecessarily. Arguing for the sake of boosting your ego is not worth it.”

If you like arguing with people, you are making a lot of enemies without realizing it.

If you want to correct other people’s knowledge, don’t say, “You are wrong.” It will hurt them. It will hurt their ego.

Instead, you could say,

“I might be wrong but I think…….”

“I am sorry to interrupt but I think…………………”

“Let’s look at things from my point of view.”

These phrases show that you respect the other person. You are not demeaning them and putting them down.

So,

“The best way to avoid making enemies is to avoid arguments”