If you are Cluster B, YOU just might be the one who is ‘Needy’.

Hey, you’re the one who needs all that supply after all…

So connection and relationships are a part of social animals like humans. As humans, we not only crave but we Neeeed connection. If you read my article, Touch, A Vital Importance, I talk about this a bit. Despite what some might prefer to believe or teach, it is not only natural to want to be loved and accepted, but it also is even NECESSARY for healthy development as well as survival in early stages of life!

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Think about that for a moment. We NEED Touch and Connection to SURVIVE and THRIVE!

Our Cluster B Personalities (your Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Sociopaths) are of NO EXCEPTION.

To a degree, one might even argue it isn’t entirely their fault. They did not receive what they needed growing-up and through choices, experiences, life, perhaps nutritional deficiencies (which I have also talked about in The ‘Real’ Epidemic: Emotional Intelligence — or lack thereof, and will come back to in a few), they became altered in a way that changes who they are or could be. Ooooor, I am simply being too kind and still in denial.

I am sure there are many possibilities and still much left to the unknown or inexplainable; however, I am sure there is so much more to the story. To continue where we left off though, they are actually the ones who are needy even though they oftentimes use a target’s ‘neediness’ against them in various ways.

Truth be told, one could argue (like I am now) that they crave this something Soooo badly they are willing to lie, cheat, manipulate, use and abuse for it … it’s attention. It’s fulfilling a need to feeeeeeel something whether that be ‘love’, connection, being ‘wanted’, ‘needed’, praised, accepted, etc., but they want and need it no less than the rest of us. In fact, I might argue that they are addicted to it and ‘need’ it more, but are also, perhaps at least slightly, incapable to truly receiving and possibly part of why they cannot give…

Perhaps it’s like our bodies being unable to properly absorb certain nutrients for any number of reasons — like not having the right co-factors or enzymes. Much like their bodies, they crave this nutrient, love and connection, but can never satisfy the need because of an absorption issue and until they get to the root cause, they will never feel satisfied… As a matter of fact, this could very well be likely and if you read my article, Being Reminded of my Fragility, I mention Dr. William Walsh who studied over and under methylation in criminals. It’s fascinating, and I believe it is a key to Cluster B Personality Disorders … their brain chemistry is off from being over or under nourished!!!

Regardless of whatever reason or excuse, these individuals love to make their targets feel weak and appear needy through their terrible behaviors and treatment of/towards their victims and then exploiting these wonderful people and caring characteristics for their own needs. It’s pretty crazy, but I think it lets us know how needy THEY really are in actuality — ironic, hypocritical, imbalanced???…hmmmmm interesting to say the least!

We ALL want to feel loved, even the Narcissist — or perhaps ESPECIALLY the damn narcissist!

As someone who is often gullible, naïve, and too kind for my own good, I have often been treated as if there is something wrong with me and my childish innocence. Like I am stupid, annoying, or even needy because I care and give a genuine shit about people.

Being kind is so often confused with weakness, and I whole-heartedly disagree and here is why.

Being kind, especially in the face of adversity, isn’t easy or for the faint of heart.

It isn’t something easily faked for long periods of time — sure, someone might be able to hack it in short spurts, but true genuine heartfelt care and kindness isn’t something that can be imitated for long.

It isn’t the fake ‘kindness’ of the Cluster B Personality Disordered individuals that tricks their targets and victims and survivors long-term, and it isn’t that the people who are tricked are not smart, but rather it is because their kindness is used against them!

Being Kind is Not needy, but being a Cluster B Personality juuuust might be, DeSpiTe what you may have heard. Think about it and it makes sense in more ways than just the obvious. They NEED not only supply, but very specific supply. They NEED to be seen as someone they are not but their target actually is. Theeey NEEEED the love and affection and KINDNESS of the target. They need to almost be rejuvenated by their target in order to keep tricking other people in their lives who are not the main targets but are still useful — every hear the term ‘energy vampires’?, well … that’s kind of what they are and what they are doing, sucking the positive kind loving energy from their victims!

If you are one of these delightful kind, caring, compassionate, full of light and love, kind of souls, I cherish you and so do many others! Please do not ever give-up on or lose your beautiful shining sparkle.

“Be a better person. Make your enemies happy by giving them more reasons to hate you.” ~ Shane O’Neil

I love this quote, it speaks to me and maybe it will speak to you too. If not, there is always this one too, which is also wonderful oddly enough in both a different and very much the same way as the one above lol

Plant Kindness & Gather Love ~ Proverb, from my tea tag

Regardless of what people say and try to tell you, you are special because of how sweet and kind and sensative you are.

It is Not weak to care or be kind — it is weak NOT to be.

❤ With all the Love, Grace, and hopes for a Better, Brighter, Happier and Healthier tomorrow, as well as to Your Health & Wellness, Happiness, and Well-being. ❤

With Love, Light, Prayers and Blessings ❤ Your Idealistic HolisticNerd ~ ❤ Mind ❤ Body ❤Spirit/Soul ❤ ~

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References:

Walsh, William J. (2012). Nutrient Power: Heal Your Biochemistry and Heal Your Brain. New York: Skyhorse Publishing.

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