Long Term Relationships
If I Rub Your Back With The Lights Out, It’s Foreplay,” My Husband Declared.
If you want to have fun with me, you must make your intentions known before I go to sleep
“I don’t know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.” — Woody Allen
If you and your significant other speak like this about sex, you have been together for a long time. I can’t complain about our sexual interactions. My spouse is wonderfully comfortable speaking his mind and asking for what he wants.
One of my favorite activities is to have my honey give me a massage after a day of working on our flowers either in front of our home or around the pool in pots. The flowers required that we move and lift pots, dig weeds, and plant new flowers. It looks lovely but needs work, as do most things that provide pleasure. My spouse will rub the sore spots on my upper and lower back after I take a hot shower to loosen them up.
Well, I did not work outside today. I concluded my bedtime routine, washing and moisturizing my face, brushing my teeth, and freshening up as all coupled women do before bed. After the lights were out, my spouse reached over and proceeded to give me a good back massage. I started falling to sleep at the ministrations from his hands.
My spouse gently pinched me. He said, “When I rub your back with the lights out, it’s foreplay.” I sleepily said, “Really, since when?” He responded, “Since today.” “Well. It would help if you made your intentions known before I went to sleep,” I smiled. He said, “Will you turn over?” I said, “Maybe,” laughed and turned over. ‘You’re lucky I love you,” I said, reaching for him.
I enjoy that we don’t speak in code or innuendo. We say what we want and need. As a long-term couple in love, we find that this blunt talk works best for us. 99% of the time, your desires will be fulfilled. Try it. Talk plainly, ask for what you want, speak up if you are not getting what you need, and be flexible and patient with your partner. You’ll find your levels of satisfaction will rise significantly.
Give it a try. There is no downside.
Toni Crowe retired as the Vice President of Operations of a division of a multi-billion-dollar company to pursue her dream of being a writer. Toni has written six books. Her bestselling business book, ‘Bullets and Bosses Don’t Have Friends’ won a Gold Readers Award.
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