If He Doesn’t Believe in your Dreams More Than You Do: He’s not the One.

Summary

A supportive partner who believes in your dreams is crucial for personal growth and relationship success.

Abstract

The article emphasizes the importance of having a significant other who wholeheartedly supports and believes in your aspirations. It suggests that a partner's unwavering belief can help overcome self-doubt and imposter syndrome, leading to personal success. The author shares her experience of her husband's unconditional support, which has been instrumental in her pursuing her career goals and celebrating even the smallest achievements. The article argues that mutual support is a cornerstone of a strong relationship and advises against settling for a partner who doesn't provide this level of encouragement.

Opinions

A partner should be your biggest cheerleader, inspiring confidence in your abilities to achieve your dreams.
A supportive partner celebrates all victories, no matter how small, and views every new idea with optimism.
Past relationships lacking this support can lead to doubts about one's career choices and goals.
Mutual support in a relationship fosters a sense of teamwork, where both partners are invested in each other's success.
The author believes that everyone deserves someone who looks at them as if they can achieve anything, akin to being a 'superwoman'.
The article implies that settling for less than full support from a partner is not acceptable and that one should seek a relationship where both individuals uplift each other.

There’s nothing like hearing “I knew you could do it”

Hey ladies, how does your significant other react when you tell them you have a new idea, new dream, or new career goals? Does he question your ability to do it? Say it’s crazy? There’s no way you could make a living off of it?

If so, it’s time for him to go.

It’s amazing what can happen when someone you love believes in you more than you believe in yourself. I have always suffered from imposter syndrome and just a general belief that some of my goals would be impossible to reach.

My husband? That man thinks I’m superwoman. I could tell him I was planning a Unicorn business and he would respond with “hell yeah! You got this!” No dream is too big and no success is too small to celebrate. I literally made my first 40 cents on medium this morning and his eyes lit up as if I had told him I won the lottery.

When I paused writing my own work for a while to focus more on my clients, this man was big mad. Well, not mad, just confused. Didn’t you want to write your own work? Tell people you’re own story? He asked me. It’s because of him I started writing for myself again, and without him believing that I would become successful as a freelancer, I never would have done that either.

The thing is, this stuff works both ways too. Every new idea he has, I’m all in. That man is superman to me who can accomplish anything he wants.

Honestly, that’s what I think makes our marriage so great. Yes, the communication is good, we’re both loyal, and we have fun together. But the best part? We support each other like nothing else I’ve ever seen.

I’ve had past relationships where they questioned everything. “You want to go to what school? You think you can have WHAT career? You think you can be successful with that idea?”

With my husband, those things have never been a question. Everything I want to do, he’s right beside me cheering me on. When I have a bad day and think I cant do something or I’m stressed about finishing a project, that man just smiles.

When I finish whatever I was stressed about, he just smiles, nods, and laughs, then he says “I knew you would.” I hope everyone can have someone like this in their lives because the calmness and confidence it brings are just unmatched.

So, if you’re boyfriend or significant other doesn’t react like this, I hate to tell you, maybe they’re just not the one. Don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t look at you like you’re a superwoman. That’s what you deserve.