I Want Will Smith to Be Held to Account
If a sucker-punch on live TV doesn’t wake us up to the problem of toxic masculinity, what will?

Well, you can have three women host the Oscars, but you can’t keep toxic masculinity from stealing the show.
Seeing a sucker punch on live TV was such a trigger for me. It was awful to witness, but that wasn’t the bad part. The bad part was everything that came after starting with coming back from commercial break and seeing him still there, grinning widely, waiting for his award.
Why wasn’t he escorted out? It is unfathomable. No, he is spoken to by several men around him, embraced, rooted for, but not taken out. Where is the accountability?
And then he wins and gives a wandering and cringe-worthy speech. And his is cheered. He is clearly a very troubled man who is not in control of himself. He is dangerous. He needs help. Is he too entitled to be held accountable? I hope not but I fear so. Will the police be involved? Will there be some kind of intervention for this man, if for nothing else than for the protection of others?
And I worry about his wife as well. She seemed pleased by his behavior, and not surprised. She held his hand. He was protecting her. From what? A tacky joke? She doesn’t need this kind of protection. This is not love. This is a sick display of some warped idea of being a husband, a father. When are we going to be done with this?
And now he has apologized. This is only good if it is the beginning of something. For him, for the Oscars, and for us. Let us make no excuses for this behavior from one another.
Let us be on the side of decency and self-control. Let’s cure ourselves of admiring a man using his fists to protect his woman’s feelings. Let’s dig in and do better. And let’s start by treating Will Smith’s violence seriously.