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are applicable to people who are not on the spectrum.</p><p id="2095">One of the social rules I teach is to maintain eye contact and listen attentively to the speaker so that questions can be asked about what they are saying.</p><blockquote id="c098"><p>I’ve noticed that many relationships suffer because people don’t feel like they are in a mutually beneficial arrangement.</p></blockquote><p id="f853">In order for a relationship to work, both parties must be invested in it. Paying attention to the person you are talking to and actively listening is the foundation from which fulfilling and healthy relationships can be established. This connection is the basis for everything.</p><h2 id="1ab0">Prioritize yourself and your family</h2><p id="367d">It is important to stay informed about global affairs, but it is equally important to focus on ourselves and our immediate surroundings. Our first priority should be taking care of ourselves and our families.</p><p id="a052">As a child, I believed that I had the power to change the world. I thought that embarking on a global mission would make me a hero and bring me fulfillment. However, I eventually realized that I was struggling and that I needed to prioritize my own well-being and the well-being of my family.</p><p id="4083">Changing ourselves and our immediate community can ultimately lead to changing the world. The world is comprised of various communities, and each one significantly impacts the world as a whole.</p><h2 id="f4c6">Have a plan</h2><p id="c684">Having a plan and setting goals for the future, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem to others, is crucial.</p><p id="416e">I used to be a wanderer, believing that I could just go with the flow and let life take me wherever it wanted. I had a dream of living out of a van and traveling the

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world, but I soon realized that this lifestyle couldn’t offer me true long-term rewards.</p><p id="f9b3">I had no real sense of direction.</p><p id="766b">As I entered my mid-30s, I created a plan with my family for what our lives will look like in the next 6 months, a year, and even 10 years from now.</p><p id="a83b">While I know that bumps in the road are inevitable, having a sense of purpose and direction gives us something to strive for and wake up to every day.</p><h2 id="05f4">People are disappointing</h2><p id="ba35">This experience taught me a vital lesson of not relying on others for my needs all the time. It’s important to discern who is trustworthy and who isn’t.</p><p id="c6cb">Life has its ups and downs, and having people around who can support you during tough times is crucial.</p><p id="3b99">I’ve learned to accept that there are people who may disappoint you and won’t be able to care for others as they are too focused on themselves. However, this doesn’t mean that you should give up on finding dependable people to go along with you on the journey of life. Keep searching for those who will be there for you when you need them.</p><blockquote id="a0d4"><p>This human thing is tough, we need other soldiers along our journey.</p></blockquote><h2 id="6431">Quit looking to the gurus</h2><p id="2b08">After researching and learning every possible self-improvement hack, I realized that the cognitive knowledge of how every prescription will improve my life, has never actually improved my life.</p><p id="5350">The Atmamun path the Himalayan Swamis spoke about is about paving your own path and seeking answers from within yourself. It’s about carving your own path and taking suggestions here and there, but ultimately, recognizing that the entirety of your path is yours to make.</p></article></body>

I Turned 34 in Hawaii. Here are the 6 Lessons I’ve Learned About Life so Far

They’re not what you think

Photo by Peter Conlan on Unsplash

I welcomed my 34th birthday in the luscious Hawai’ian island of Oahu. I went swimming with sharks, hiking the islands highest peaks and watching surfers at Banzai Pipeline.

However, I also learned that I have a massive fear of the ocean, which has now become my latest obsession — overcoming my fear of the ocean.

During this trip, I reflected on five valuable lessons I’ve learned about life so far.

Don’t conform to the masses

The internet and social media have pushed us into a future where the masses are in control. As social beings, it is natural for us to want to belong somewhere and fit in with others.

However, when this desire comes at the cost of our own well-being and integrity, it is simply not worth it. There are plenty of people and groups out there that are more aligned with who we are as individuals than the superficial social media “friends” we may have.

Follow your own path, search for your passions, and don’t stress about the rest.

Listen and make eye contact

As someone who teaches communication skills to children with Autism, I find it interesting that the same skills are applicable to people who are not on the spectrum.

One of the social rules I teach is to maintain eye contact and listen attentively to the speaker so that questions can be asked about what they are saying.

I’ve noticed that many relationships suffer because people don’t feel like they are in a mutually beneficial arrangement.

In order for a relationship to work, both parties must be invested in it. Paying attention to the person you are talking to and actively listening is the foundation from which fulfilling and healthy relationships can be established. This connection is the basis for everything.

Prioritize yourself and your family

It is important to stay informed about global affairs, but it is equally important to focus on ourselves and our immediate surroundings. Our first priority should be taking care of ourselves and our families.

As a child, I believed that I had the power to change the world. I thought that embarking on a global mission would make me a hero and bring me fulfillment. However, I eventually realized that I was struggling and that I needed to prioritize my own well-being and the well-being of my family.

Changing ourselves and our immediate community can ultimately lead to changing the world. The world is comprised of various communities, and each one significantly impacts the world as a whole.

Have a plan

Having a plan and setting goals for the future, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem to others, is crucial.

I used to be a wanderer, believing that I could just go with the flow and let life take me wherever it wanted. I had a dream of living out of a van and traveling the world, but I soon realized that this lifestyle couldn’t offer me true long-term rewards.

I had no real sense of direction.

As I entered my mid-30s, I created a plan with my family for what our lives will look like in the next 6 months, a year, and even 10 years from now.

While I know that bumps in the road are inevitable, having a sense of purpose and direction gives us something to strive for and wake up to every day.

People are disappointing

This experience taught me a vital lesson of not relying on others for my needs all the time. It’s important to discern who is trustworthy and who isn’t.

Life has its ups and downs, and having people around who can support you during tough times is crucial.

I’ve learned to accept that there are people who may disappoint you and won’t be able to care for others as they are too focused on themselves. However, this doesn’t mean that you should give up on finding dependable people to go along with you on the journey of life. Keep searching for those who will be there for you when you need them.

This human thing is tough, we need other soldiers along our journey.

Quit looking to the gurus

After researching and learning every possible self-improvement hack, I realized that the cognitive knowledge of how every prescription will improve my life, has never actually improved my life.

The Atmamun path the Himalayan Swamis spoke about is about paving your own path and seeking answers from within yourself. It’s about carving your own path and taking suggestions here and there, but ultimately, recognizing that the entirety of your path is yours to make.

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