I tell my husband at least a lie every day!
Curious why?
Well, it’s all about time, or more specifically, our different views on it. My husband is not the best when it comes to being on time, and that’s where my little white lies come into play.
I must start by saying I’m madly in love with my husband, and anyone who has read what I’ve written here knows how much I appreciate him and how much his opinions matter to me. He’s a good, wonderful, upright man, and an exceptional father. But…
And just like in anything in life, there’s a “but.”
But it’s not at all punctual; he absolutely can’t manage to leave the house on time. Being a very calm and meticulous person, for him, an hour doesn’t have 60 minutes, but at least 90. That’s his margin of error! I mentioned in another article that I learned from him how to do things at a slower pace. Essentially, combining his style with mine results in what I consider the perfect balance.
Now, onto the topic of my lies.
Yes, I lie to him, particularly regarding family appointments or friends meetings that require our presence. I respect his chill approach, but in our world of schedules, it could cause chaos. So, to avoid constant rushing, I gently tweak the timing details every day.
For example, if we’re meeting friends at 7 PM, I might tell him it’s at 6:30. When we’re expected at my parents’ house for lunch at 13:00, I always inform him it’s at 12:00 or 12:30. It’s not about tricking him or changing who he is; it’s a small adjustment to ensure we get closer to being on time. So ,yes, I consistently tell him a different time because this ensures we arrive on time.
It’s not that he’s overly concerned with his appearance or spends excessive time grooming; it’s simply that he invariably finds something else to occupy his time right before we need to be somewhere, precisely 30 minutes before.
I must say that my husband is the jack-of-all-trades in the house, a real handyman around the house, tackling everything from fixing leaks to changing electrical wiring.
But many times, he underestimates the time allocated for each task, leading to funny situations and that’s how, 30 minutes before dinner with our godparents, my husband changes the rusty faucet in the bathroom or minutes before we’re supposed to have friends over for dinner, he decides to fix a squeaky door or wobbly chair. It adds a bit of chaos to our plans, but it’s also kind of endearing.
And it’s not about making him be on time like clockwork but creating a bit of a buffer so that our schedules align more smoothly.
I can’t even get too upset with him because he’s always well-intentioned. But sometimes, I feel like I can’t keep up with everything he thinks he manages to do in a simple hour.
Why lie!? Why go through this daily charade?
It’s about finding balance. Our lives have different speeds, and these little lies help bridge the gap between his easygoing style and my more structured one.
These lies aren’t a big deal; they’re a way to make our days smoother. They add a touch of predictability to our routine and keep us from scrambling at the last minute. Instead of causing stress, these small adjustments make our life together more relaxed and enjoyable.
It’s not about hiding the truth but finding a way to make our shared time a happy rhythm!
All this little tricks create stories we laugh about and remind us that perfection isn’t necessary for a happy life.
Thanks for reading! It really means a lot to me. Your support keeps me going, and I’m grateful for each one of you joining me on this journey. ❤️
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