I Stopped Trying to Change Others — Here’s What Happened

I remember it as if it were today, it all happened twelve years ago, I was at the beginning of my spiritual journey. I’m glad I chose this path because I don’t regret it.

When I started to feel wonderful things when I meditated, I was so amazed that I wanted to share it with everyone, I thought how can I not share something so beautiful with others?

Everything started to be wonderful for me I was happy, I didn’t have to do anything and I felt incredible.

When I discovered that there was another way to be happy in this world, I thought other people would like it, but somehow I was wrong, at that time I didn’t know that not everyone would be interested in meditation.

After many years I realized that every person is looking for something else in this life and not everyone wants to meditate. It took me almost a few years to understand this.

Now I’d like to start the story because so far it’s been a little introduction.

So as I wrote above, it all started twelve years ago, not long after trying to meditate, I started to be happier and happier and discovered incredible things about meditation.

So after seeing how much meditation helped me with everything that was going on in my life, I decided to share it with those around me, but unfortunately, it didn’t turn out the way I thought it would.

I started making friends with a lady who was the boss of a grocery store, that’s where I usually bought my necessities. After some time she started asking me how I could be so happy and carefree.

So I started to tell her about the meditation, and she was very excited she liked the idea very much. So I started going to that shop more and more and we started talking about it more and more.

After 2 months she started to understand more about spirituality and tried to meditate, I saw that she changed a little bit, but not enough, because I could see that the worries still overwhelmed her a lot.

At some point, I could see that somehow my presence was bothering her, perhaps it was too much for her. You know how it is, when you have too many worries on your mind you don’t feel like being bothered by someone else.

So this friendship didn’t last very long because, after a few months, my friend started to really tell me how she felt. She told me that she likes the way I am and that she wishes she could be the same but unfortunately, it’s too hard for her to meditate. She explained to me that because he had so many problems, didn’t want to try to meditate anymore.

So, understanding the situation very well, I stopped going to that shop and, little by little, I stopped talking to my girlfriend. I haven’t spoken to her since and haven’t seen her since, although I hope she is better off than she was then.

I talked to a lot of people about meditation, I wanted to share it with everyone, but I realized that not everyone was ready for it.

Maybe they liked the way I was, but they somehow didn’t want to put the effort that I was putting into meditation, so I understand them anyway because we all have certain situations in our lives that take up too much of our time.

Somehow I wanted to change others to be like me, believing that they would be happier and live a better life. But it wasn’t like that, I couldn’t change anyone, on the contrary, I started to feel bad because I couldn’t figure out why they didn’t want to meditate.

It wasn’t until many years later that I realized that although people saw that I was happy and carefree, they didn’t really see me because I was so much more than they saw.

Meditation offered me more than people could see, very rarely did people feel my inner energy, and when they felt it they were simply amazed, they didn’t believe that such a thing could exist. And as far as I could tell they could only feel a little of that energy, not all of it, and it was enough for them to feel good.

But although only a few people felt that energy inside me, they were not ready to meditate either, they were somehow content just to be near me and to be able to feel it. It pleased them so much that they didn’t need to meditate. Even though I told them when I was no longer with them they would not be able to feel that energy, they didn’t listen to me because they were not yet ready to venture into the world of meditation.

Conclusion

I have never managed to change anyone, so please don’t try to do so as it is impossible. Whoever wants to change will change himself, it’s up to him.

The only thing you can do is to show him the direction you went in and this might help him.

So please stop trying to change the world, the only person you can change is you, start with you and your life will be so much better.

Everyone has their destiny, so everyone should follow their path, not someone else’s.

So what you can do in this regard is to accept everyone as they are, and then everyone will accept you as you are. We don’t have to change anyone but ourselves and that’s only if we want to.