I Stopped People Pleasing and This Happened

Summary

An unapologetic female entrepreneur shares her transformative experience of overcoming people-pleasing, leading to increased freedom, personal growth, reduced pressure, stronger relationships, and greater happiness.

Abstract

The author of the article describes the significant life changes she experienced after she stopped seeking approval from others. By focusing on her own happiness and needs, she found herself with more time and mental space to pursue her dreams and build her ideal life. This shift allowed her to grow into the person she wanted to be, free from the constraints of external opinions. The reduction in pressure to conform to others' expectations led to a more relaxed lifestyle. She also discovered who truly valued a relationship with her and became unapologetic about her desires, refusing to compromise on her vision. Ultimately, these changes resulted in a marked increase in her happiness. The author encourages readers to support her work by becoming Medium members, offering them unlimited access to stories on the platform.

Opinions

People-pleasing is a significant drain on time and energy that could be better spent on personal development and happiness.
Prioritizing one's own needs and desires is crucial for personal growth and for crafting a fulfilling life.
Worrying about others' opinions can hinder one's ability to focus on self-improvement and achieving life goals.
Setting personal boundaries is essential for identifying genuine relationships and respecting one's own worth.
Keeping personal goals and ideas private until they are realized can prevent unwanted advice and maintain one's commitment to their original vision.
Compromising on one's dreams due to a lack of immediate results is a mistake that can impede success and satisfaction.
The author believes that the only opinion that truly matters is one's own, as it is the individual who is responsible for shaping their life.
The author values the support of her readers and sees Medium membership as a way for them to gain value while also contributing to her work.

1. I became freer.

You may not realize it yet, but pleasing people take up so much time and energy.

You spend an endless amount of time thinking about how to make someone else happy with a decision you know is best for you.

You have so much more time to take action with exactly what you want in life.

You spend less time worrying about other opinions because they don’t matter. What makes you happiest is most important in life. I don’t mean that selfishly, I mean it as a fact. If you aren’t happy in life then what you’re doing isn’t worth it.

Your mental space becomes freer. You have more space in your mind to dream, work towards bettering yourself and build your dream life.

3. I felt more relaxed and as if less pressure was on me because there was less pressure.

The pressure is off. You don’t have to think about what everyone else will think because the only opinion that has value is your own. You are the one doing the heavy lifting and crafting your dream life. Other people aren’t going to help you grow as a person, entrepreneur, or whatever titles you strive to have in life.

I Stopped People Pleasing and This Happened

A crazy true story from an unapologetic female entrepreneur.

1. I became freer.

2. I started growing into who I really wanted to be.

3. I felt more relaxed and as if less pressure was on me because there was less pressure.

4. I learned who truly wanted to have a relationship with me.

5. I became unapologetic and don’t compromise for what I wanted anymore.

And most importantly… I’m a bunch happier!