I Met a New Girl and Realize I Do Not Really Love My Wife

What should I do?

Over a decade ago. I experienced the most heartbreaking break-up imaginable. My ex left with my son while I was on a work trip. And she got engaged a week later. Which tells me it wasn’t a new relationship for her.

This killed me inside and I grew cold. Over the years I never felt any more feelings towards anyone. I met my wife. Got married and had my 2nd son. I love her. But there have never been any strong feelings. Which confirmed to me that I grew incapable of feeling any sort of emotions.

Now recently I met someone at work. Note. I haven’t cheated to this day. This girl is amazing. For one reason alone. For the 1st time in over a decade, I feel. My heart pound when I see her. I want nothing more than to spend time with her. I just want to be with her. I actually started feeling emotion again.

Now I’m torn between my mind and heart. Should I pursue my heart and happiness even if my wife gets hurt? Should I follow my mind? My wife doesn’t get hurt. But I will never be truly happy.

Now I have no clue what is the correct path to follow.

Dear writer.

This is the exact reason why we have so many damaged people in the world today. Someone shattered your heart, and instead of healing properly and waiting for the right person, you decided to settle with someone innocent who isn’t settling.

Now you would hurt her the same way they hurt you, and the vicious circle continues. This is very sad.

I pray it doesn’t get to this.

Do you know that spending lots of time with someone who you find attractive can cause you to start developing feelings? More often than not, the feelings you develop in such a situation are what we call infatuation.

So before you ruin the good thing you have and damage the trust you were given, kindly take some time off work to avoid distraction. Then self reflect to determine if this is love or infatuation.