Summary

The author emphasizes the importance of small acts of love, like giving flowers and expressing affection, in maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.

Abstract

The author shares a personal anecdote involving a young man who refrains from buying flowers for his girlfriend to avoid "spoiling" her, which the author likens to neglecting a partner's sexual pleasure. The author argues that such acts of kindness, like buying flowers, are simple yet effective ways to make a partner happy, fostering an environment of love and happiness that benefits the entire family. The article suggests that regularly expressing love and appreciation through both words and actions can significantly improve a relationship's dynamics, advocating for these gestures as a means to increase the overall happiness within a household.

Opinions

The author believes that a happy partner is crucial for a harmonious relationship and contributes to the happiness of the entire family.
Regularly buying flowers for one's partner is seen as a metaphor for nurturing love and care in a relationship.
The author equates not buying flowers to neglecting a partner's needs, suggesting that both are forms of withholding affection.
Expressing love verbally and through actions is considered essential for relationship satisfaction.
The author implies that the cost of flowers is negligible compared to the joy they can bring and the positive impact they can have on a relationship.
There is an underlying belief that happiness in a relationship is cumulative and can be intentionally increased through consistent, loving gestures.

I Love You. Please Be Happy Every Day.

My recipe for a happy and healthy relationship

Let me tell you a small episode from my life.

Last time we had a small flower shop. We rented a flat back then. Every month a guy working for the landlord came to collect the rent. Imagine a 25-year-old, 2m tall, athletic guy who drives a car. I asked him once:

Do you have a girlfriend?

Yes.

Do you buy flowers for her?

No, I don’t want to spoil her.

Let me translate this for you.

Do you have sex with this girl?

Yes.

Do you make sure that she has an orgasm every time you have sex?

No, I don’t want to spoil her.

That’s exactly the way I heard it.

All women I met in my life were happy to receive flowers. Have you ever met a woman who’d say ‘Meh, flowers…’?

A happy partner (girlfriend or wife) makes you happy in return. She makes your kids happy if you have them. Your kids grow surrounded by love and happiness. The total amount of happiness increases.

An unhappy partner sends you and everyone around down in this spiral of unhappiness.

How much do flowers cost where you live? 2, 5, 10 dollars? Buy her flowers. They will die one day. Buy them again.

Tell her that you love her. Tell her why you love her. Do it every day.

These things look small. Yet they make a difference in your relationship.

Make her happy first. Be happy!