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I Learned to Block People, and It Dramatically Improved My Life

And why you should, too

A new writer on Medium recently accused me of being racist. After a few back-and-forths, I realized she wasn’t interested in having a discussion. Instead, she wanted a fight. So I blocked her.

Then, I was told, she wrote another piece where she said that I blocked her because I “couldn’t handle the truth.”

She completely missed the point: I blocked her because she was toxic. And I would do it all over again. On Medium, and in real life.

Here’s why.

People purge

I used to let all sorts of people into my life. I had poor boundaries.

I had friends who complained about everything and everyone. Nothing was ever their fault. The world was against them. Their parents messed them up. It was all government’s fault. Being around them was exhausting. Their toxic energy was contagious.

I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling tired, confused, and often angry. Then, through therapy, books, and good advice I began to realize that I was taking on their anger.

One by one, I let go of those relationships. And I felt lighter, more myself, the positive self. Sure, I had only a few friends left in the whole wide world, but they were worth it.

I started to seek out people who inspired me, whose positivity and productivity were contagious, who made no excuses and didn’t blame others for their mistakes.

In their presence, I wanted to do better. We fed off of each other’s energy. One person’s success would inspire another one to try new things.

Positivity is contagious.

Negativity breeds negativity

Just as negativity is contagious, too.

And there’s a lot of it going around in the world these days. More than I ever remember during my lifetime.

While you can’t solve all of the causes, you can control how much negativity gets to you.

Because what you feel at any given moment is what you attract more of into your life. Have negative thoughts? Be sure negative events are on their way.

It’s the law of attraction in action.

The good news is that the better you feel the better things you attract into your life.

So next time, you talk to a negative person, ask yourself if it’s really worth the price.

Communicate with care

Positive communication is a delicate balance.

Feelings spiral out of control quickly. One negative comment can lead to thirty minutes of negative thinking, which is enough to attract a negative event, which in turn breeds more negativity, and the next thing you know, you’re in bed, sick and angry at the world.

This happens to me from time to time. Just knowing how things work doesn’t make you immune to negative side effects.

Positivity requires daily effort. For those living in big U.S. cities, like me, the effort sometimes feels all-encompassing. Yet I persevere.

Next time you feel like writing a negative comment, an unreasonable review, or an angry Nextdoor post, think if it’s really the best way to spend the next five minutes of your life and the life of people your words will affect.

Surely, not everything is peachy-rosy, but let’s be mindful of what and how we communicate to others.

Life really is too short

It seems that the world might just be going to hell after all. For all I know, we may be looking at another nuclear war. Life is just too unpredictable these days to assume we’ll have endless opportunities to enjoy ourselves.

Do you really have a moment to waste on a person who makes you feel anything less than good? I know I don’t.

Once you become more careful with who you allow into your life, your tolerance for bullshit decreases. You become more sensitive to the slightest outburst of anger or negativity.

That’s why I don’t hesitate for a second to block an angry Medium writer. Just like I don’t hesitate to block a Russian friend who’s in support of Putin’s war. With some people, there’s nothing you can say or do. So just step aside.

Because if you don’t learn to block negativity, one day, you might just end up yelling obscenities on the corner for the whole world to hear. I’ve come close.