I Learned Lessons From People Who Disliked Me

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Mine was a normal childhood. There were good values inculcated. Be a good human being, work hard to achieve your dreams, be honest, and such were the words I would hear from my parents. They not only taught us that but also practiced those values. Yet, what I gained in wisdom, I lacked in social skills. I was born like this, or it was due to not learning social skills/life skills as a child, there could be many reasons.My Efforts:<ul><li>Though upset and insulted, I remained steadfast in being what I was. I did not change myself to please anyone, be in their good books. Yet at the same time, I realized I should be confident about myself. I should not let myself down. Either I blend in with the crowd, or I am not upset if someone laughed at me.</li><li>I concentrated on my studies. I also became a voracious reader as that was the only thing left for me. I was proud of myself for being a reader.</li><li>I worked hard on getting an

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education, developing my social skills, and getting a career — All these brought with them, respect for me, from the same people over time.</li></ul>Lessons Learnt:<ul><li>Being awkward, whether by nature or because of certain circumstances, is a negative thing in itself, but nobody’s fault. Do not look down upon anybody. If you don’t want such people in your circle of friends, also do not laugh at them.</li><li>Do not let social awkwardness change your life and your perspective. If you want to change, change the situations in your favor. Work towards equipping yourself with knowledge. Respect will follow.</li><li>Such experiences are nobody’s fault either. Equip yourself with life skills. They are an important part of our lives, but are not given due importance.</li></ul>2021 — A.H. Mehr<h2 id="8857">No matter what I do with my life, or how successful I am, I will always be a socially awkward penguin inside — Wil Wheaton</h2></article></body>

Short Personal Perspectives #3 — Social Awkwardness

Quote from Osamu Dazai, from his novel, “No Longer Human”

The Negative Experience: I was very awkward, clumsy, inept, weird as a child and teenager. I was not able to start a conversation or talk. I was very uncomfortable around people. Some of my cousins would laugh at me whenever they saw me during social gatherings. If I tried to join their conversations to be one of them, they would talk among themselves and again laugh at me. They disliked and avoided me. I was not like them. Yet, I couldn’t change myself to please them. I remained what I was. These were very trivial things (a part of childhood that most children go through) but left an indelible scar on my sensitive psyche.

Mine was a normal childhood. There were good values inculcated. Be a good human being, work hard to achieve your dreams, be honest, and such were the words I would hear from my parents. They not only taught us that but also practiced those values. Yet, what I gained in wisdom, I lacked in social skills. I was born like this, or it was due to not learning social skills/life skills as a child, there could be many reasons.

My Efforts:

Though upset and insulted, I remained steadfast in being what I was. I did not change myself to please anyone, be in their good books. Yet at the same time, I realized I should be confident about myself. I should not let myself down. Either I blend in with the crowd, or I am not upset if someone laughed at me.

I concentrated on my studies. I also became a voracious reader as that was the only thing left for me. I was proud of myself for being a reader.

I worked hard on getting an education, developing my social skills, and getting a career — All these brought with them, respect for me, from the same people over time.

Lessons Learnt:

Being awkward, whether by nature or because of certain circumstances, is a negative thing in itself, but nobody’s fault. Do not look down upon anybody. If you don’t want such people in your circle of friends, also do not laugh at them.

Do not let social awkwardness change your life and your perspective. If you want to change, change the situations in your favor. Work towards equipping yourself with knowledge. Respect will follow.

Such experiences are nobody’s fault either. Equip yourself with life skills. They are an important part of our lives, but are not given due importance.

2021 — A.H. Mehr