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t out there and make it big than actually doing the work to get out there and make it big.</p><p id="10c0">Because of failure. Because of judgment. Because this part holds the burden of believing that fully living our life is scary and unsafe.</p><p id="7291">When this part is in charge of my inner system, it continues to ruminate on my past and things that make me feel ashamed. Because then I’ll never have to actually take a risk in the outer world.</p><p id="19d8">But here’s the thing: it’s safe to be happy.</p><p id="33a3">It is safe to live in abundance.</p><p id="2198">It is safe to be clear about what we want and to take regular steps to make it a reality for us.</p><p id="2847">It is safe to be playful.</p><p id="c94e">It is safe to create positive momentum in our life.</p><p id="d222">It is safe to set boundaries with our own shame.</p><p id="6ca8">It is safe to be happy.</p><p id="c11b">I wrote an entire article about why we protect ourselves from our own happ

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iness. You can check it out here:</p><div id="38ac" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-top-3-unconscious-ways-you-protect-yourself-from-happiness-a413b3e08a4c"> <div> <div> <h2>The Top 3 Unconscious Ways You Protect Yourself From Happiness</h2> <div><h3>All three revolve around your fear of abandonment.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*VcSHaIbEiP0WbbvlrXdZDQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="f714">P.S. I am a trauma-informed coach who helps survivors of narcissistic abuse navigate past heartbreaks so they can thrive in future relationships.<a href="https://calendly.com/jordin-james/chemistry"> Schedule a discovery session with me</a> to learn more.</p></article></body>

I Know You Don’t Believe It But It Is Safe To Be Happy

Happiness can be scary to some parts of us

A part of me is committed to believing something is wrong with me.

Because as long as we believe something is wrong with us, we can spend all our time fixing that thing that is wrong instead of getting out there and living our real, vulnerable lives.

This part would much rather spend their time in the minutia of our inner-world and dream of the day we are “okay enough” to get out there and make it big than actually doing the work to get out there and make it big.

Because of failure. Because of judgment. Because this part holds the burden of believing that fully living our life is scary and unsafe.

When this part is in charge of my inner system, it continues to ruminate on my past and things that make me feel ashamed. Because then I’ll never have to actually take a risk in the outer world.

But here’s the thing: it’s safe to be happy.

It is safe to live in abundance.

It is safe to be clear about what we want and to take regular steps to make it a reality for us.

It is safe to be playful.

It is safe to create positive momentum in our life.

It is safe to set boundaries with our own shame.

It is safe to be happy.

I wrote an entire article about why we protect ourselves from our own happiness. You can check it out here:

The Top 3 Unconscious Ways You Protect Yourself From Happiness

All three revolve around your fear of abandonment.

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P.S. I am a trauma-informed coach who helps survivors of narcissistic abuse navigate past heartbreaks so they can thrive in future relationships. Schedule a discovery session with me to learn more.