I Kept Dyeing My Hair Lighter Even if I Knew It Sometimes Wasn’t a Good Fit
I just wanted a change every once in a while to shake things up
Waiting until I was an adult because my mom wouldn’t like it
I’ve been dyeing my hair for a long time. I usually dye it lighter although every once in a while to cover up a bad bleach job, I’ll darken it back to the closer natural dark brownish/black hair of my natural roots. The first time I dyed my hair was after high school. As a minor, I knew that my mom could override my impulses and veto any hair-related decision. I didn’t want to defy my mom.
If you’d met her, you’d understand why. She’s a small woman, but she’s very fierce and strong in her convictions. I still lived with my mom at the time but I had a girlfriend at the time so I figured I could hide behind my girlfriend if things went south with my mom.
I dyed my hair blonde for the first time. She didn’t like it but since I was an adult, technically, at the time, she told me that I would be the one to live with my own consequences. My darn mom, getting in my head like that. My hair was back to its darker color within a few days after she reacted the way she did. I think at that point, I would’ve preferred that she would’ve raged at me over it.
It didn’t deter me after as I did it at least a dozen more times and ginger twins
In the time since then, I’ve dyed my hair at least a dozen times and it usually ends up some form of lighter brown, blonde, or even red. Blonde seems to be a very default color for me since it’s easy to get a hold of hair bleach from Sally Beauty Supply.
I’ve done it so many times that I’ve even done it myself a handful of times. I’ve even dyed my hair a few times since I’ve been with my partner in the last 8 years. The most recent time I did it, I dyed it red to match my ginger-haired partner. We both thought it looked fine and it worked for a while. I left it like that for months until my roots started to grow out. I figured the last time that I did it, which was just over a year ago, would be the last time.
I’ve actually finally learned to love my darker hair. My partner certainly loves my darker hair. He loves how it complements my tan skin. I had thoughts at times when we matched that it was a bit creepy like I was trying to “Single White Female” my partner so that’s what ultimately led me to go back to my natural color.
Finally comfortable in my own skin
I don’t even think I’d want to dye my greys and white hairs when they start to grow in. I think I’m just going to let 40 and beyond come in naturally on my head and be happy and comfortable in my own skin. I’m not a teenager or a young adult anymore trying to seek validation from others.
I’m also not trying to impress other guys so I mean that’s the reason I might’ve done it before. I definitely don’t need to continuously dye my hair. I don’t really want to or need to change anything up. I’m in love, I’m happy at least in that regard, and I’m fine being my natural, genuine self without any cosmetic enhancements.
