I had sex with my gay friend, Richard.👬To find out if he was really gay.

I was 17 & he was 16 in 1976. He was my bestie! We talked about everything!

We talked about fashion and music.

We talked about EVERYTHING! Richard gave me 👩‍🦰 hair and 💄makeup tips. We giggle NONSTOP! — 💁‍♀ This was face to face, —( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) — NO INTERNET. — 📞NO CELL PHONES! — PURE UNCUT TALKING AND FRIENDS!

Of course, we talked about love and sex.

Richard was so cute. I thought I was a geek! Teen bullshit. 🐰 (At 31 some crazy ass person decided to pay me to be a Playboy model,)

All of his buddies were gay guys.

We were into theater…GO FIGURE!

Richard was on fire, AKA, flaming!

Absolute PERFECTION! There was absolutely ZERO question, but he was conflicted. He, thank, God had no judgemental church issues. Nonetheless, at 16 years old, he talked to me and had questions.

Like some crazy ass redhead had answers, right?

Was he gay really? — If he wasn’t, he was for sure crazy!

His gay was PERFECTION to me!

I didn’t care one bit!

We had so much fun!🤸‍♂️

We talked and talked and talked, 🎵 We listened to music. 👩‍🦰 We did hair. 💄We did makeup. 🛒We shopped. 💃 We danced.🎭 Talked about theater.

But then there were the huge deep convos, like…

🅰🅼 — 🅸 — 🆁🅴🅰🅻🅻🆈 — 🅶🅰🆈? — 🅸 — 🅷🅰🅳 — 🅽🅾 — 🅰🅽🆂🆆🅴🆁!

Figuring out your sexuality can be a confusing and challenging process, especially for high school students.

There is no one answer that fits everyone, but here are a few things that male high school students can do to explore their sexuality:

Think about your attractions as an option. —

Did he love me? 💖 Did I love him?💖 Yes!!!💖 100%

We talked for hours and hours!

I did think of myself more like a friend. — Okay, he was kind of like a girlfriend in a dude's body. — Was I drawn to romantically and sexually? NOT ONE BIT!

I WAS NOT HOT FOR HIM.

I asked him, do you find yourself thinking about boys more than girls? Do you get butterflies in your stomach when you’re around a certain guy? These are all signs that you might be gay or bisexual.

His answer was that he was never attracted to a chick.

As his trusted friend, talking to someone you trust about your feelings can be a helpful way to get some perspective. I wanted to share my own 17-year-old BS experiences or offer advice.

I had at the time had sex with one dude. (I was 17.)

I was single so after some talking we decided, maybe to do some research.

There are many resources available in libraries that can help you learn more about sexuality.

Reading about the experiences of other gay and bisexual people can be validating and helpful.

But after careful contemplation, we decided to experiment.

If you’re not sure how you feel, experimenting can be a way to explore your sexuality. This doesn’t mean you have to have sex, of course, but we got brave trying things like kissing or holding hands.

Richard closed his eyes and said, “OMG, let’s just do it!”

So we did, He finished and said, ABSOLUTELY, I AM SO GAY!

He was FREE OF DOUBT 100%! Yes, Richard was gay

We laughed and hugged. — We would have high five, but it was not invented in the 70s!

This was before aids or anything. — ( • )( • )ԅ(‾⌣‾ԅ)

Of course, we used no condom! — If I had gotten pregnant, that would have been a real shit show! We were young and dumb.

Richard and I remained besties.

He got a boyfriend and I graduated. We lost touch sadly. I moved to Cali to become a movie star! I wish I could have taken Richard!

I did actually meet another gay Richard.

He was also a blast! I was promoting a TV show, and I bumped into him!

It was Richard Simmons. He is as fun in person as he is in his videos!

We started talking and ended up dancing. 🏋️‍♀️AND YES RICHARD WAS WEARING THE WORKOUT OUTFIT!

Richard is now 75 years old. 🍬He is a super sweet guy!

𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝑹𝒊𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒂𝒕 𝟕𝟓 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒐𝒍𝒅, 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒏 𝒖𝒑𝒅𝒂𝒕𝒆.

Everyone loves Richard! 🎬 2-minute video.

Lately, I started watching the show, “Queer Eye.

I am addicted. — 💖Such a feel-good show. 📣 IT’S TOTALLY BRILLIANT!

Queer Eye is a reality TV show.

It follows a group of five gay men (the Fab Five) as they makeover the lives of people in need.

The Fab Five specializes in different areas: food and wine, interior design, culture, fashion, and grooming.

Basically, these 5 awesome gay men change people’s lives! — THEY ARE A BLAST!

Below is a quick trailer. Get your gay guy friend fix for a few.

I truly miss my fun buddy from high school, Richard. 🔽🔽🔽 These guys remind me of him!🔽🔽🔽

In each episode, the Fab Five spend a week with their “hero”.

They help them with their personal style, their home, their diet, and their overall outlook on life. The show is known for its heartwarming stories and its positive message of acceptance and self-love.

If you’re looking for a feel-good show that will make you laugh and cry, then Queer Eye is definitely worth a watch.

Here are the five members of the Fab Five:

• Antoni Porowski is a food and wine expert. He is originally from Montreal, Canada.
• Bobby Berk is the interior designer. He is originally from Washington, D.C.
• Jonathan Van Ness is the grooming expert. He is originally from Sacramento, California.
• Tan France is a fashion designer. He is originally from England.
• Karamo Brown is the culture expert. He is originally from Newark, New Jersey.

The Fab Five have become household names since the show premiered.

They have used their platform to advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and to promote self-acceptance. Queer Eye has been credited with changing the way people think about the LGBTQ+ community.

If you’re interested in learning more about Queer Eye…

You can watch it on Netflix. There are currently seven seasons available”

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