I Got Dumped out of a 2.5 Years Relationship. Here are 5 Life Lessons I Learned

Things to watch out for before entering into a relationship

One day I woke up and realized I was not made for anyone, I was made for myself. I am my own Best Friend.

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

Pathetic, depressing, dull, and deadly are some of the words that describe the months followed by heartbreak. I completely lost myself. I lost my passion and the will to live. Every second was a needle to my senses. I was doing everything humanly possible to distract myself even if it means consuming toxic materials.

I will be honest, I fucking lost everything.

The memories were haunting me day and night and I was punishing and blaming myself for it, was rock hard on myself. I was at home but mentally I pushed myself behind the bars. My life went on a roller coaster without putting on the seatbelts.

However, the sun always shines through the darkest clouds to fill the jar of positivity and passion in your life.

Surely, it was a dark phase for my life but the lessons it taught are invaluable. It showed me my true capabilities and potential as an individual.

Let’s get started —

1. Make memories with yourself

Do you have any significant good memories with yourself? When was the last time you did anything for yourself worth remembering?

Today, as the modern world progresses we are so busy leading and hustling that we don’t even think of spending time with ourselves.

Treating yourself a priority. Taking care of yourselves. It’s either we are applying all our energy to grow someone else in their life or completely ignoring our own needs.

It’s high time to start be on your own and make a hell of good, crazy memories with yourself. At the end of the day when you go to your bed, and as you rewind and introspect the day, you should be happy from the heart and not merely on the face.

Make every day count.

Go on adventurous trips, eat your favorite dish at your beloved restaurant, binge-watch series on Netflix, spend quality time with your family and friends, go out live a life you wish. Live a life you won’t be sorry for before you hit the sleep button.

2. Love yourself the most

Self-love is underrated.

I have even listened to people asking vague questions like“ how to even love ourselves”? Can you believe it? Are we robots? I miss the humans with emotions and self-awareness in this world.

We as a society are so eager and quick to invest in others that we don’t even think of investing the same time and energy in ourselves.

How can you love others when you don’t know how to love yourself? You can’t pour from an empty mug. Isn’t it?

You have to prioritize yourself above everyone. You have to take care of yourself before you care for everyone around you. It starts with you. The world will treat you the same way you treat yourself. Until you show them that you love yourself, no one around you will love you genuinely.

Loving yourself and making sweet memories move parallelly. The more you love yourself and treat yourself as a priority, the heavier will be your bag of memories and happiness.

3. Don’t depend on anyone too much

Don’t depend on anyone for happiness, love, compassion, and mental peace in your life. You should have zero expectations from the people.

Believe me, I have always expected people to be with me through my darkest phase. Expecting them to help me, listen to me, and sympathize with me. Unsurprisingly, even my closest friends left me when I needed them the most.

Expectations always put you in a vulnerable position in life. Do you want that? Oh! I thought you want a heck of confidence. Never mind. My bad.

Be your own source of happiness in life. Do things that make you happy. Why do you need validation when you are comfortable with your choices?

Interested in listening to a fact of life? A truth.

You have to face the toughest of challenges and obstacles in your life by yourself. No one will help you, instead all of them will try to make you fall down. That’s how the work gets done here. You have to be your own savior. Fight your own battles.

Expecting any help will be stupidity. You have got to do it. It’s much more easy and beneficial for you.

4. Self-respect above love

I bet everyone reading this has once in their lives dumped their self-respect for love over someone. Don’t tell me you haven’t.

We often give our partners multiple chances to improve or rectify their wrongdoings irrespective of how low they have kicked us just because we love them. Love sometimes can be a very good tool to make us look stupid.

The relationship in which the partners don’t have respect for themselves is a waste relationship.

You are going down a sloppy hill without breaks.

Respect your choices, respect your decisions. Show them that you value yourself the most. Don’t let them deteriorate the respect you have for yourself. Remember the way you treat yourself reflects how others will treat you.

Aren’t you a king? Then treat yourself as one.

Self-respect goes a long way. It’s beyond love. Love fluctuates throughout your life but self-respect remains intact.

I would rather prefer a person that respects me than a person who loves me.

Choose wisely.

5. Believe in yourself

Have confidence in yourself and believe that you are capable of fighting any shit that this world throws at you.

To fight major battles in your life, you need only confidence and belief that you are capable to overcome this and you are much bigger than your problems. I made through my worst days by having the same in me and my choices.

I fought with my insecurities and anxieties with my head high up and willing to take any blow. I believed that one day I will be out of this crap and have a light laugh retrospecting.

I made up my mind to stand up every time I fall and fight with all the energy and guts I have.

You can only be defeated in real life when you are defeated in your mind. It’s about the mindset. Don’t lose the game even before it begins. Every day is a different opportunity to work on the things that failed yesterday.

One cannot stop the sun from rising. In the same way, one cannot stop you from achieving anything in this world until you wish to.

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