Amber Ember’s Confessions

I Enjoyed Being Watched by a Trans at the Sex Club

But I Never Told My Partner

I suppose the swinging world is more straight than one would think. While female sexuality is openly accepted, generally men do not feel as free to engage in male bisexuality, especially in the open playrooms at the sex clubs (Keeva Black wrote a great story on that).

Alternatively, people fight over prime real estate to watch female bisexuality in action. Besides this outlier of acceptance of female bisexuality, when it to comes to LGBTQ, not only is male bisexuality, not as accepted, but in fact, there are usually select nights for others within LGBTQ, such as trans* nights.

Regardless of the night, sex clubs are a sex-positive community and anything goes, as long as it's done with consent and all are of age, so naturally, some from the trans community attend on any night. But it’s curious to note that sex clubs within the swinging community sure don’t need to host a bisexual ladies' night, but they need select nights for others in the LGBTQ community.

What does this say about all the work that still needs to be done to challenge stigma not only in the general population but in the swingers community?

Consequently, I have become more familiar and friendly with some of the trans regulars, and they smile at me. I smile at them. They like my outfit. I like their lipstick and it’s all set — we’re like besties. Except, my partner is not sexually attracted to trans, and usually, when we go to a sex club it's because we're interested in finding people we’re attracted to.

Now I know I have just revealed a truth that some may not like for me to openly admit. But I think that exposing these realities is important to challenge ourselves, and I want to challenge myself, but I don’t think my straight partner is as explorative as I am.

Now, I’ve always been attracted to gender division, as in I tend to gravitate towards traditionally feminine women and masculine men. Yet, when I see some trans at the clubs, watching my partner and I have sex with one another or with others, sometimes it turns me on.

But I’ve never told my partner because I know it doesn’t turn him on. I don’t yet know if my attraction to trans is something I want to explore more but I do know that I liked it when they looked at me. I also liked how I looked over when my partner wasn’t looking and that I had an interaction with them that my partner did not know about.

That night they watched me intently as they looked over at me. I sucked my partner's cock while I looked them right in the eyes. When I looked away I kept picturing the trans looking at us and it made me wet and my heart race faster.

When I snuck a peak when my partner wasn’t looking, I felt a rush. I imagined what this rush would feel like if we were to embrace it. I never considered myself pansexual. I don’t have any sexual experience with trans to say I am pansexual.

But that night I had fun making flirting eyes with a trans.

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