I Cheated On My Boyfriend, But…

I cheated on my boyfriend.

I didn’t mean to do it — it just sort of happened. He was out of town for a week when I met a guy at the bar, and we ended up sleeping together. I felt terrible about it, and I know what you’re thinking: How could it “just happen”? But believe me, it can. I’m not proud of what I did, but I learned so much from this experience that I think every woman should know how to handle this situation if and when the day comes that she finds herself in the same shoes.

First of all, there’s no reason to panic. When my boyfriend came home and asked if anything had happened while he was gone, I told him the truth right away. He was upset and needed some time to himself, but we talked things out later on and he forgave me. The worst possible outcome would have been for him to find out later that I’d lied to him about it — that would have been much more difficult to get over than any indiscretion or one-night stand could ever be. So whatever you do, don’t try to hide it or pretend it didn’t happen! If you care about your relationship at all, tell your partner right away.

I’m sure there are plenty of people who have wondered why I didn’t see it coming, and surely there will be plenty more who will wonder the same thing if they don’t know the whole story. It’s easy to judge when you’re not in the middle of it.

The truth is that I really did think he was going through a “phase.” We were young, and he’d been a bit of a ladies’ man before we got together. It wasn’t as if he hadn’t had sex with a lot of other women before me. I know that it’s a horrible thing to say, but I sort of expected him to be unfaithful at some point — it just didn’t happen as soon as I thought it would.

I was so used to being surrounded by broken relationships and marriages that when my relationship with him started to deteriorate, I didn’t even realize what was happening. I thought we were just having a rough patch and that things would get better eventually. Of course, they didn’t — they kept getting worse until we broke up for good on Christmas Day last year.

What do you think PS?

That’s an excerpt from someone.

Let’s get one thing clear right off the bat: cheating is not “just a guy thing.” People of all genders and sexual orientations cheat in relationships, and sometimes they don’t even know they’re doing it. But there are certain factors that may cause men to be more likely to cheat.

1. Men want sex more than women.

2. Men are less monogamous by nature.

3. Men cheat for many reasons, not just because they feel dissatisfied or unhappy with their current relationship.

4. Men are more likely to feel guilty about cheating than women are.

5. Men are more likely than women to cheat on their partners if they have the opportunity to do so without getting caught.

What do you think?