I am worried…

Summary

The author expresses concerns about life choices, the fear of change, and the impact of worry on decision-making, while advocating for mindfulness and professional counseling to manage these worries.

Abstract

The article titled "I am worried…" delves into the author's personal anxieties about the future, the fear of making irreversible decisions, and the potential for personal and relational change. The author admits to worrying about being seen as irrational, facing the unknown, and the possibility of losing connections with loved ones. The text underscores the struggle with self-perception and the desire to be content with one's life. It suggests that while worry can lead to rational thinking, excessive worry driven by fear can hinder daily functioning. The author emphasizes the importance of addressing the root causes of worry through therapy and offers practical tips for managing stress and practicing mindfulness to achieve a balance in thought processes.

Opinions

The author believes that talking through worries with friends can provide comfort and a sense of normalcy.
Friends are valued for their ability to offer opinions and reduce feelings of "CRAZINESS."
The author uses the term "normal" cautiously, acknowledging that everyone's life is unique and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to living.
Worry is seen as a double-edged sword; it can aid in rational decision-making but also lead to paralysis by analysis if not kept in check.
The author suggests that seeking professional help, such as counseling, is crucial for understanding one's behavior and managing worry effectively.
There is a perception that therapists may over-medicalize and over-diagnose, but the author reassures that not all therapists follow this approach.
The author endorses mindfulness as a beneficial practice for managing thoughts and reducing worry, describing it as a gentle process of self-kindness and refocusing on the present moment.

I am worried…

An attempt to unleash the thoughts.

I am worried my next move will change the directions I can not turn back from. I am worried my direction will lead to a place of the unknown and being alone. I am worried my children will look through me versus at me.

I am worried others see me as being irrational and emotional. I am worried about too many tears running from my face is a sign of loosing control. I am worried of not knowing how to be a good wife.

I am worried of not making a phone call to those I care could be the last chance. I am worried no one will care to call me and this is their last chance. I am worried of losing people I care about who may not care as much.

I am worried the person I see is not the person I wanted to be. I am worried the place I am in is the same place I have been before. I am worried of being content with the life I am in.

I am worried..STOP!

To “worry” as defined in Merriam Websters Dictionary, is to be in a mental distress or agitation resulting from concern usually for something impending or anticipated. Worry is a running line of thoughts and ideas which can very easily dictate how one lives their life. In all honesty talking through these thoughts with someone is truly the only way to relieve your mind. Now most people seek out friends because heck they have probably been through the same or similar thing. In most cases friends are great because they will give you their opinion as well as make you feel like your are less “CRAZY”. In most scenarios this works just fine and we move on about our life.

On other occasions the thoughts keep rambling through and through and it starts causing you to struggle with making decisions which affect your daily routines. This is not an ideal normal way to live. Now I use the word “normal” lightly because no one lives a normal life really, what the hell is that anyway. However! your thoughts should not stop you from making decisions necessary to your lifestyle you have chosen. Worry manifests through fear of the outcome. It is not to say no one should worry, worry can help a person think rationally through their options. Just too much worry is run by fear and too less worry is run by impulse. There is a happy medium. In order to get there you will need to work on your train of thought. Seek out a counselor, because getting to the root of why you do what you do, can not be learned over getting drunk with your best friend and crying it out on their living room floor.

Here are 5 tips to get you started:

Be present in your thoughts, write them down. Figure out if they are small or large worries.

What are your fears in the decision? You are not perfect, no one is! So what is the worst that could happen.

Less stress! make a list of your top 3 stressors and find ways to lessen them. If it is your weight, walk to the end of the street and back two times a week, baby steps.

Get to the root of your worry. This may require a therapist/counselor, it’s okay they are not all going to shove pills down your throat and give you a DSM V diagnosis.

Practice Mindfulness. Yes this is what everyone is talking about, blah blah. It looks like this: you sitting in silence with yourself and gently breathing. When your mind starts to ramble through thoughts, simply smile and be kind to yourself. “Carrie your mind is so beautiful now focus back to feeling the air enter your nose”.

Thank you for reading with me today, I hope this post has you stopping in your tracks of rambling thoughts. We all do it and that is normal, now we just have to learn to live with it. I look forward to hearing from you, send me a message or a topic, I love learning and educating.