I Am Not a Person, I Am a Sexual Object.
That’s what my mind wants me to think. Not today, not tomorrow, never again.

Today has been a challenging day, marked by direct confrontations with my trauma. As I woke up, waves of past experiences flooded my mind, reminding me of the times my abusers made me question my own humanity. This unsettling start to the day set the tone for my struggles, compounded by the instability of my medications. However, in the midst of it all, I found love and support from my partner Layla, who played a crucial role in grounding me, validating my emotions, and helping reshape the course of our day.
- Overcoming Trauma Triggers:

Instead of pushing myself to follow through with our original plans, I chose to prioritize self-care and leaned on the coping mechanisms I’ve developed through DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). Layla’s presence and unwavering support were instrumental in easing my distress and ensuring our day took a different, more comforting direction. Instead of today, we have decided to surprise Layla’s mum with a visit tomorrow, allowing us to experience moments of togetherness that bring warmth to my heart and remind me of the power of genuine connection.
- Body Image Struggles and Support:

Alongside the emotional turmoil, I have been grappling with body dysmorphic concerns and a fear of weight gain associated with my medication. Layla has been an incredible source of support, understanding the complexities of these challenges. She has shown me love and acceptance, helping me navigate these unfamiliar feelings as we work together towards a healthier mindset. Her small gesture of sharing sweets with me created a sense of safety and reinforced the importance of being compassionate towards myself.
- Embracing the Weekend Ahead:
Looking forward, I am filled with anticipation and hope for the weekend that lies ahead. Spending time with Layla’s dad and his partner, Sarah, brings a sense of togetherness and familial warmth that has been absent from my own family dynamics for quite some time. At the beginning of the week, Sarah came up with a fantastic idea of going away on holiday next year. The idea of celebrating our milestones, with both our 21st birthdays and Layla’s dad’s 50th, fills me with excitement and the prospect of creating cherished memories, something that has been lost in my family structure for too long. It is moments like these that remind me of the joy and happiness that can be found amidst life’s challenges.
As this mentally unstable week begins to draw to a close, I express my heartfelt gratitude to you, the reader, for taking the time to read my story and provide support. Navigating through trauma is a journey filled with ups and downs, and your presence and encouragement mean the world to me. May the coming days ahead bring us all moments of peace, connection, and a renewed sense of hope.
