I Always Seem To De-Prioritize My Mental Health
A Look at When Anxiety and Depression Have Gotten Overwhelming

The last few years have been really rough for me. I’ve gone through some of the most difficult and anxious times of my life. My mind has spiraled into dark places and I’ve made it through some very challenging obstacles and continue to press forward. One thing I’ve never been good at and still have trouble with is addressing and dealing with my mental health.
The most reason events that happened a couple of weeks ago at the motel were very traumatic and I’ve just been spending a lot of this time focusing on my next steps and my next course of action. I haven’t even started considering how it affected me mentally and emotionally. Sure, I’ve touched on it. It did seem to change me a bit. It’s making much more distrustful of people, even those who seem to have good intentions.
I try to press on and avoid the potential consequences on my overall mental health. I don’t want to process how these events affect my anxiety, depression, and stress levels. My partner seems just as stressed, if not more, and sometimes I don’t know how to be there for him like he needs.
Am I worth anyone’s time? Am I really the problem? I don’t want to think so. I’m trying to move on in my own way and start the next chapter of our lives and learn from the mistakes and the lessons of the past.
I can’t seem to shake the feeling that something is fundamentally wrong with me now. If someone like that general manager at the motel saw it fit to completely try and tear me down and make me suffer physically and emotionally, it makes me ask if I deserved it.
Do I deserve to live a life of suffering, anxiety, and pain? Am I good enough to do anything to try and help and inspire people? Can I even make a difference when I can’t seem to get everything in my own life completely straight?
This isn’t the only time I’ve felt this way or was made to think this. I’ve had friendships in the last couple of years end abruptly and with some drama attached that I never saw coming or signed up for. Did I really deserve what they just tried to do? Is their reaction an appropriate reaction to my loyalty and friendship?
I’ve been having some very wild dreams lately. I’ve been literally and figuratively wrestling with some demons lately in my sleep. I feel like there’s some dark force trying to consume me until there’s nothing left of me. I have historically tried to show people that I can overcome, that I can persist and that I can move forward.
Yet I feel like my mind keeps wanting to drag me back down. It wants to take me back to all the dark places I’ve been to get to where I am now. I went to therapy for a little while but I keep stopping for some reason. It’s as if I think that my problems aren’t serious enough or that my mental health isn’t important enough to make one of my top priorities.
I like to pretend that things don’t bother me, that I’m not affected by the actions and words of the people around me, and that I’m not sensitive. I’m so sensitive. Every word, every action, every moment of my life is still so vivid to me. My recall memory doesn’t let me forget the things that happen around me and what is said and done to me or to the people around me. Maybe this is my problem, maybe this is what I’m doing wrong.
Even though writing has helped me express my feelings and words in a more organized way, I might need to find a better way to express my feelings and emotions and set better boundaries in my own life.
I will continue to allow people to walk all over me and to experience even more trauma and drama than I need to if I can’t figure out a healthy way to address my own personal mental issues. Setting boundaries, being honest, expressing my feelings and emotions are all ways to address my mental state.
I’m not going to be able to move on from everything that has happened properly until I can identify the way my own behavior and mental health have contributed to my current situation. No one is perfect. We’re not going to be able to get it right without help.
I need to find a way to prioritize my mental health again and get myself in a spot mentally where I can truly process and tackle all of the traumatic events of late. Until then, I’m going to continue to have nightmares and feel like I’m not good enough to even live, especially for myself and my partner.
I want to survive at my core, but I need to truly focus on making my mental health a top priority from this point forward. No one else is going to identify the need and help me get there. Only I can truly say that I need the help. I still desperately need the help. I’m literally calling out for help. And I hope I can figure it out.






