You can do it

How Your Optimistic Choices Will Help You Survive Anything in Your Life

The only one willing to save you is yourself, the only one who can.

Prompt: “If you knew you’d be saved in the end, would you still fight?”

Nobody is coming to save you.

Even if you pray to God for days and nights. You can only be saved unless you stand up by freeing yourself first. Saying this takes a lot of courage as I live by this code. And honestly, during my early teenage years, is where I lead a life of hardship filled with despair.

Despair, despair, despair… everywhere I looked I found despair no wonder I tripped venturing the unknown, trusting the wind, as she led me to the shore I’m the only one standing right here, no one by my side fear, fear, fear…

It was a troubling time for me. As I faced numerous academic challenges because my own mortality was on the line. I had to choose between the fight of my life and the struggle to perform in school. I chose the latter and worked diligently to push myself out of it alone. As I was not only battling the evils of society. But also trying to find value in what little I had left.

When I was young, I was assaulted by the people I had trusted, my friends. It dawned an ordeal on me that I had to fend for myself alone as there were no support systems to aid me during these times.

I wanted to change that by facing my odds with gusto.

“It was endless strife of struggling with Moby Dick.”

I did not want to give up on my life. Especially when I had loved ones who cared for me. I never let these experiences define who I wanted to be. I never let my parents nor my loved ones ever know of the sheer anxiety, anguish, and despair that came from facing such demons.

Quite frankly put, I have been dealing with it for the past decade just fine. I live with my experiences, or what little it affects me to this day. It has changed me more into a person that understands why things happen.

And how can we choose to survive them?

During those select few years, I only knew abuse. I had a lot to overcome during that time. But I had a single point of hope that carried me through the hard times.

It was my family.

To me, my family is everything. I could give up my life for my family. And I have once. I’ve even sacrificed myself for my friends. I have sacrificed a lot to become who I am today. These sacrifices are what have made me who I am.

I look forward to spending each second of the day with them. They’re not perfect. But what makes them complete for me is the entirety of who they are.

And I have come to learn to accept that life is fluidly colorful.

We’ve got to embrace all the colors of life to enjoy it to its fullest.

Back then, even though it was like chasing an impossible goal. Every day I would experience strife. But I would take my time even if I had little time to embrace joy. I took that time wisely. Because when I returned home. I brought that positive energy with me.

Something I learned from my complicatedly adorable father. ❤️

Thanks, Dad!

The days during that time were filled with despair and darkness. There were a lot of failures, rejections, and often, at times, horrifying outcomes. I had to learn to fail without fearing what failure might bring. It was the suffering that I had to persist.

And boy, I have seen unimaginable suffering. Whether it was the abuse of my teachers, bullies, enemies, abusers, and vice-versa. I endured all that with a smile.

Because I expected a family to return to in one piece. So I pushed myself every day for years until I triumphed my enemies with fury in my eyes. And willpower that made them quake in their boots.

“Fear, when coupled with intelligence, will do wonders for you that strength just won’t.”

In short, I gained the respect of my adversaries. And earned the right to live my life my way, without anyone’s forced actions dictating my options nor my life.

I became a man who the child once lost looked forward to as his hero. And I saved many people using the talents I honed through those hardships. I became a symbol for those around me and an inspiration that brought joy into the lives of the people I surrounded myself with.

In short, I became a free man by embracing myself regardless of failure.

Because I will never give up on myself.

Nor will I ever give up on another.

I want to change the sentiment behind my initial statement.

You are going to save yourself. You are enough.

I always aim to create hope that empowers people like me who are destined to experience misfortunes in their life. I want to give them faith, a sense of purpose that shows that their lives have meaning.

I want them to have an impossible goal to chase. Knowing it can be achieved with perseverance in time.

“You should never give up your life for anything.”

Neither will I.

Why Nobody is Coming to Save You — A False Hope

“Santa Claus is neither coming to punish you, nor is he coming to praise you. You are the only one who believes that.”

I have a different perspective on the subject of survival. If you expect someone to save you from yourself. Then you might be disappointed countless times before someone actually pities you and stands up for you.

But I have some bad news for you, it is only yourself.

Though, there is a high chance the same person you believe is coming to save you. They are the ones who are going to betray you as soon as their agenda has been met.

I know the feeling of hoping for something that will never come. Just because some rats in a lab(controlled environment, with set variables) survived an experiment.

It doesn’t mean you will.

Have you ever wondered how many rats did die because the help never came? Because they believed someone else would come to save them from themselves.

You are not a rat. You are a human being. Your path of life and the choices you make “set” you apart from everything.

Survival is a crossroads rather than a one-way street. There are going to be sacrifices, sufferings, and arduous points in your life.

You are going to bleed. And you are going to be left for dead.

You will question everything you do. You will feel like no one’s there left for you.

But there is someone who has always been there. The one who who hears your every fear.

Who has seen what you have felt? Who has held you as you wept?

It is no one but your self.

There will be moments you will lose everything that makes you who you are. Only to realize that you never lost it in the first place.

A joke that darkness and despair will so often play on you.

They will manipulate you. And you will believe them out of desperation to survive.

Pushing you to question yourself to why you even try?

Why oh why!?

This perplexing feeling that life is just a maze will be the gist of your time figuring out how to get out. Every evening that I spent was in prayer to not only God but also to my inner self. Seeking guidance from within was only the optimal option for me.

I had tried everything(at least the ones that seemed tangible.) Not all options are always meant for you. Some take a lot than what they deliver, even if the outcome is slightly in your favor. They are never worth it.

This is where faith was my guide. I had followed my intuition that echoed from deep within.

Yes, you need to pray to your inner self to not give up. You have to tell your inner self every day that it’s okay to be not okay. You have to confirm that the day has just ended.

And tomorrow will be a new day.

So shall it be!

Even if it might be just the same. But you have to hope for the possibilities that will bring you joy. When you do decide that, you will come to realize all the patterns you need to set to achieve just that.

Be a realist but still possess the optimism to make good things happen for you.

It will come with time. And that you have a lot of.

With each experience, you will experience pain, and so will you experience joy. Only if you choose to grasp what matters to you.

Eventually, you will find your way.

As did I.

The Timeless Echo from the Deep End of my Soul

And to answer the question, of a dear ol’ friend, Dan Catalin.

“If you knew you’d be saved in the end, would you still fight?”

No, I will never depend on anyone to save me.

I am enough. I will fight regardless.

I know I’m able to survive from anything that comes into my life. And even if it comes to defeat or even death.

I will make peace with it and still strive to my last breath to hold onto my precious life.

Because I know the value I have and what I can deliver to this world.

No one and I mean, no one can take that away from me.

Thus, I will never give up, n-ever.

Even if the very world shuns me out.

I’ll look back at it with a smile.

And what comes after is but a joy ride.

As I know, I am enough to last the tide.

So are you.

Peace and Stay Safe!