How Women Treat Men They Are Attracted To: 1 Big Sign She Likes You
Open your eyes!
Have you noticed how differently women treat men they are attracted to? How much they smile around them and how there’s this whole transfer of energy every time they meet? How women seek the company of these guys but avoid the ones they’re not attracted to at all costs?
On the other hand, have you noticed how women treat the guys they’re not interested in, but who are interested in them? Sort of like they’re a nuisance and they want to end the interaction as quickly as possible?
Well, that’s not just in your head.
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The moment you start showing interest in a woman who’s not attracted to you, you’ll be given the cold shoulder, the side eye, and be avoided like the plague by that very woman who treated you nicely just a day before.
And that’s not because women are mean. Quite the contrary. It’s a protection mechanism.
When a woman is friendly and outgoing with a guy, his almost instant reaction is to think she has an interest in him. More often than not, she doesn’t — attention is not attraction.
Falsely believing the girl has an interest in you, you’ll start showing an interest in her.
Seeing that, the woman will start to back off because she doesn’t want to lead you on or give you false hope. That’s when you come a step closer because you already got used to that good attention: you want it, you need it.
She will pull back even further, possibly to the point of being a bit rude, so that you get it already.
Women will almost never tell you to leave them alone, because a lot of violence and even deaths have resulted from women saying no to men.
So they’d rather be on the safe side and just show you.
A lot of women will treat you with a bit of a distance from the start because they don’t want to end up in the situation described above. Most women don’t want to lead a man on, and they know men will consider any sign of attention from women as a lead.
It’s not, guys. That’s just your wishful thinking.
The problem is that most men overestimate how women feel about them and most women underestimate it.
I know I make this mistake, especially with men I like. Although it’s clear to me that the guy is interested, I always find a different explanation for his behavior than his obvious interest in me.
‘Nah, he was just being friendly’
‘I’m sure he just likes me as a friend’
‘I saw him drooling after me, but maybe he just has rabies’.
Etc… OK, I never thought the last one, but you get the gist of it.
On the other end of the spectrum, you see guys interpreting every little gesture a woman makes as a sign of interest in them.
‘She said hi to me with a long drawn-out I, she must want me badly!’
‘She scratched her back when I walked by, I think she wants me to give her a massage…’
That last one is true, a colleague said that about someone he had a crush on. And he meant it!
There is one big sign that will tell you a woman is into you. And that is: she will enthusiastically seek your company (without ulterior motives).
Let’s say you work together. You go to the kitchen to make some coffee and 10 seconds later she’s there — she wants coffee too.
You walk past her desk and say hi, she always stops what she’s doing and responds with an enthusiastic hi back.
You propose a get-together with colleagues after work, and she’s the first one to say yes and maybe even change former plans she had in order to be there with you.
She tries to always make eye contact, be in your presence, and respond positively to your attempts at interaction.
If, however, she seeks your company for other reasons than the pleasure of your actual presence, she might not be so much into you as she is into the help you can provide, such as: fixing her computer, moving her furniture, trimming her back yard, etc. Pun not intended on that last one.
There are some people, both men and women, who are naturally so friendly with everyone around them, so jolly and extroverted and openly enthusiastic, that they make everyone fall in love with them just by their presence and the unadulterated level of attention they give you.
These are the people you need to be careful with. Not because there’s something wrong with them. They’re not evil, they’re not manipulative: well, not more than anybody else, anyway.
It’s just so easy to misinterpret their attitude. They seem to want you, but… they seem to want everybody else. They’re the undiscovered superstars of our mundane world, entertainers of day-to-day reality.
Time and wisdom will teach you that they’re not interested in you, they’re interested in everybody and nobody at the same time. Friendly, flirty, and lovable is just their way of interacting with others and you shouldn’t read anything into it.
The problem is that these people will draw others like moths to a flame. They are the flame and everybody else will be the moth dying to warm its fragile wings at their burning sun.
But the truth is they want nothing more from you than they already have: a light, joyful, and friendly time.
If you fell for one of these women it’s better to take a step back and let her come to you and tell you directly if she wants something from you. Or you can just ask her.
Asking someone out is and always will be the best way to know if a woman is interested in you. If she truly is attracted to you, she’ll say yes. If she says anything other than an enthusiastic yes, then it’s a no.
There are no mind games that you need to get trapped into. It’s simple: the only yes is an enthusiastic yes. Don’t play anything else if you want to be in a happy and healthy relationship.
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