avatarKylie van Gelder

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The website content discusses the personal struggles of a life coach who, despite promoting self-improvement and personal development, also faces days of wanting to give up and indulge in simpler pleasures, emphasizing the continuous effort required to not "suck at life."

Abstract

The article "Trying Not to Suck at Life Can Be Really Hard Sometimes" delves into the challenging aspects of personal growth as experienced by a life coach. The author admits to moments of fatigue and the temptation to abandon self-improvement efforts in favor of leisure activities like watching Netflix, consuming comfort food, and drinking. These feelings are balanced by reflecting on past achievements, the positive impact on personal well-being and relationships, and the deeper purpose behind the pursuit of a better life. The author acknowledges the difficulty of the journey but also highlights the importance of persistence, learning from tough days, and celebrating the progress made. The message is clear: while the path to self-improvement is arduous and temptations to quit are real, the reward of a happier and more purposeful life is worth the effort.

Opinions

  • The author expresses that the pursuit of self-improvement is a challenging, never-ending process that can sometimes feel overwhelming.
  • There is an acknowledgment of the appeal of giving in to simpler pleasures and the occasional need for relaxation and indulgence.
  • The author believes that reflecting on personal achievements and the positive changes in one's life can be motivating during difficult times.
  • The article suggests that perseverance in personal development leads to significant progress over time, which can be highly rewarding.
  • The author emphasizes that while it's okay to have "shitty days," using them as opportunities for growth is crucial.
  • The piece conveys the opinion that the choice to actively work on becoming a better person, despite its challenges, ultimately leads to greater happiness.

Trying Not to Suck at Life Can Be Really Hard Sometimes

There are days when I want to give up on getting better

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As a Life Coach, part of my job is to help my clients see the light and become a better person. To guide them in the direction of self-discovery and the ever-so-fantastic journey that comes with it. Then there are days when I get a reality check and I struggle to do more than making a cup of tea.

In all honesty, this personal development journey is hard work. It’s exhausting sometimes.

There are days I want to give up and veg out in front of Netflix, drink some beer, eat a bowl of pasta and follow it with a bag of chips. I’m a carbs gal if you didn’t notice.

These days, I want to coast. To give up trying harder, because often it’s simply hard to not suck at life. Like really hard.

You have to do the work every flipping day of the week, month and year… forever. Now if that’s not daunting, what is?

I mean really, do I have to be a better person?

“Insanity is coasting through life.” — Morgan Freeman

Well, according to Mr. Freeman, I do.

How to not give up

On the days when I feel like giving up, instead of calling it quits, I think about all I’ve achieved and the relationships I’ve built with myself and others.

I write about the amazing mindset shifts I’ve made and the improvements to the overall well-being of my family.

I dig deep, sometimes really, really deep, to realign with why I started on this path in the first place.

These flashes of hope. These glimpses of light during my I-want-to-suck-at-life days are what pull me back. I can see the progress I’ve made and how much happier I am.

I’m doing what I love and discovering new things I love.

Now don’t get me wrong, I still veg out sometimes and I have shitty days where nothing useful comes out. I also love a cold beer or a glass of red wine, but I limit these and my chip/pasta intake.

I do this because I know they take me down the next day.

They set me off of my purpose to become a better person and to help other ladies discover their greatness within.

When things get easier

It’s really flipping hard until it’s not.

  • Until you get out of your head.
  • Until you accept that you’re allowed to have shitty days.
  • Until you look at how far you’ve come.

When you look back and see all the tiny steps you’ve made and realize they now amount to a gigantic freaking leap forward, you find motivation to keep going.

You give up on sucking at life and you connect to your purpose again.

Some days are harder than others, but it’s so worth not throwing in the towel. The more you practice pulling yourself out of these sucky days, the easier it gets.

It’s worth using these I suck days as a chance to learn and grow.

In the end, we all have a choice. We can choose to fall prey to the tempting version of life where we coast through it, or we can put in the work to become a better person. Naturally, being better is harder, but it also makes you happier. Wouldn’t it be nice to be happier for the rest of your life?

Life
Life Lessons
Self Improvement
Personal Development
Personal Growth
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