Summary

The article discusses the emotional journey of letting go of a Twin Flame, emphasizing the importance of self-focus and internal happiness.

Abstract

The author of the article shares a personal account of coming to terms with the nature of the Twin Flame journey, acknowledging that it is fundamentally a solitary path. Despite intellectual understanding of the need to shift focus inward, the author admits to struggling with the attachment to their Twin Flame. The narrative explores the common pitfalls of seeking external validation, the challenge of relinquishing the ego's desire for control, and the spiritual awakening that comes with truly embracing the solo journey. The article concludes with the realization that one must find happiness within, independent of the Twin Flame, and that this process involves a profound mental shift and the cultivation of inner peace.

Opinions

The Twin Flame journey is often mistakenly perceived as being centered around the Twin Flame, but it is actually about one's own spiritual growth.
There is a tendency to glorify the connection with the Twin Flame and to seek external signs, which can lead to a cycle of self-complacency and obsession.
The Divine Feminine energy can perpetuate a pattern of waiting and seeking happiness from external sources, including the Twin Flame.
The Twin Flame should not be viewed as a reward or end goal, but rather as a catalyst for one's personal development.
Letting go of a Twin Flame involves a mental shift towards focusing on one's own present life and finding happiness independent of the Twin Flame.
The process of surrender is not about erasing the Twin Flame from one's heart but about changing the perspective to prioritize one's own well-being.
Balancing the soul's unconditional love with the ego's need for self-affirmation is key to maintaining neutrality and inner peace.
The soul's energy is characterized by a calm certainty and an ability to hold space without being influenced by external circumstances.

How to walk away from your Twin Flame

I have been in denial.

I can see it clearly now. I wasn’t embracing the truth, which is quite simple: the Twin Flame journey is a solo journey.

Rationally, intellectually, I knew I had to shift the energy, I knew I had to focus on myself, etcetera. I knew this was my spiritual awakening. I knew this whole thing wasn’t about my Twin, but about myself.

However, I wasn’t letting my Twin go.

My mind would keep reassuring me that I was over him and on the right path. And yet, I would spend hours glorifying the love I had for him, basking in the thought that it was so supernatural and divinely guided. Asking for signs (that I would punctually receive). Being self-complacent because of my progresses. Genuinely thinking I was focusing on me, only to realize… I was still missing him to the point of obsession.

As Divine Feminines, it’s so hard to escape the energy of “waiting around”, even subconsciously. We are so used to expect happiness to come from outside. Also, we are so used to please people to win their love. In the Twin Flame journey, as we can’t please our Twin because we are in physical separation, this often translates into “pleasing the Universe” — I’ll be a good girl, I’ll do my homework, and I’ll get my final reward.

Except our Twin is not the final reward.

He is the person you love the most, but you have to let them go.

You have to let go of that huge part of your Ego that thinks you can only find happiness outside of yourself, in something you have limited or zero control over — in a circumstance, like “being young and beautiful”; in an earthly achievement, like a good job; in a person, even the person you love more than you’ve ever loved anyone.

Let’s say it again: this journey is NOT about your twin. Let’s consider him a tool, a trigger for your activation, not a goal and most of all, not a “reward”.

So, what do we do? Should we forget about them? Should we remove them from our heart? If you are like me, you know how horrifying this thought can be. We feel our Twins under our skin, like a background noise that’s always there, even when we’re not thinking about them — how could we possibly get rid of that?

So, what does surrender really mean?

It is not about forgetting about them, it’s a mental shift -THE most powerful one.

You are the main character and your main concern should not be your Twin Flame, or your hypothetical future life with your Twin Flame, but your present life without your Twin Flame.

Your main concern should be to become so happy alone, that you don’t even need them. Starting today.

And there is another aspect I find interesting. When we shift the focus on us, we have to be in control of our Ego. Sometimes, the anger I feel for how I let my Twin treat me, the realization that I have changed and I’m no longer the needy, emotionally starved woman he met — makes me want to cut him off completely, to block and to forget about him.

The key here is to find neutrality — to balance the inner certainty from Soul that we love them immensely, with the desire from Ego to reaffirm our self love through the usual Ego strategies — allowing ourselves to feel resentment in order to make it easier to walk away, for instance.

The energy of the Ego is about action — it wants to take “revenge”, to forget about them, to hold boundaries, to delete conversations and pictures — but the energy of the Soul is about staying -it’s unbothered and unfazed. The Soul knows the truth.

Isn’t this what “holding a space” is all about?